I am not a late night person either and I am glad I read this blog. It validates my saying, "Unless we make plans to go out between 4 and 6 p.m. as a starting point and are on our way home no later than 9:30 or 10 p.m., I really don't want to do it. Mornings are great, afternoons are great, early evenings are great. Other than that, I cannot stay up very late and enjoy myself. Nor do I like to be lethargic the next day because I didn't get enough sleep. I am highly energetic but my clock runs from 5:30 or 6 a.m. and ends at 9:30 p.m. That's just the way it is. And, last, I am not a partier."

Lisa Bays, Westminster,

after years of going out every night, spending fortunes, drinking too much amd meeting mainly tossers. Meeting my husband and getting married at 34 was absolute bliss. I stay home now with him and the step kids (excellent excuse as no childcare). Dont have to worry about cabs home, ruining my shoes or getting rained on, getting mugged - nothing. Its absolute bliss, going out is very over rated. I still buy all the fabulous clothes just wear them at home. Buy why are the dedicated goer outers so scathing? My Mother calls me loser as she likes to come home from the casino at 6.15am. I know who I think he loser is.

sunita, northwood, middleses

So far the best excuse I’ve gotten in rejecting an invitation has been; “I can’t go. I have to go to the White House and work at the state dinner for the French President” I’ve e-mailed her to find out how it went, so far no reply.

Phil , Washington, DC

Has Cassandra been booted out of the magazine for more advertising space? Very unhappy. They did the same with the back of the News Review and it hasn't been nearly so good since... Come home Ariel!

Georgina, London, UK

In America nowadays the older people are Professionally more wanted because of their experience, patience and success.

The younger generations has interentet but lacks in experience & patience due running very fast & expecting quick results.

They say old is gold, the old may not be wanted in the dark, into the Parties, wine, dine & dance but in the day light to lighten the work force due their vast connections & making stable success & pofit at large with patience.

Sattar Hakim, Pomona, USA

Have you guys ever considered that you might be suffering from depression? But then again, I live in Spain.........

Elizabeth, Valencia, Spain

I can sympathize with this lady, and her great article. I was invited to a friend's 50th birthday party at the weekend which started at lunchtime. Obviously, I was obliged to stay for the BBQ which would start soon. To me, 'soon' would be about 5 p.m. at the latest. (You have to understand, that here in the US, Saturday night for ex-pats starts at 8 p.m. with Are You Being Served, and other British comedy and finishes with Only Fools and Horses. ) Unfortunately, 'soon' came at 9 p.m. By then, you can imagine the state of most of the gathering, including the host. I managed to avoid a burnt burger and an equally revolting onion ring, and made a hasty retreat. I've been told I'm boring for my attitude to nocturnal events, but to me, an evening on the couch with either a book or the remote is bliss. Thank you Cassandra.

Al, St. Petersburg, Florida, USA

Cassandra's problem is that she's not really a city girl. She should stick to the country, where the range of things people expect you to do after ten is more limited, and the range of excuses for not doing them wider.

Bill, Norfolk,

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T o'dowd

regular reader for many years

tom dowd, sligo, ireland

please come back to the magazine, cassandra! i'm missing your neurotic self already!

Jack, York, UK

I was so disappointed today when I found The Sunday Times Magazine and jumped at it to try and find the cassandra article - its gone! It was the only regular thing worth reading in my view... will the article ever return?

Katie Anderson, Dumfries, Scotland

Hooray! I'm normal! It was such a relief to read this article. I hate going out in the evening and I hated it even when I was 18. Getting ready was exhausting, transport a logistic nightmare, and I was ready to crawl into bed by 10.30 pm, which ruled out any of the things my friends wanted to do. Oh, and I don't drink.

However, I'm not totally unsociable - I enjoy meeting friends for lunch. It's just this obsession with evening (or, worse still, night-time) activities which I object to. Why on earth would anyone want to be out in the dark and cold at 2 am? To say nothing of the dangers of being mugged or raped. My idea of a blissful evening has always been to lie on the sofa with a good book, followed by sleep at 11.

Alys, Colchester, U.K.

Excellent statement, i absoloutly agree. Please take it a step
further even though i am 32 yrs old. This is a stupid society
we are living in. The Notebook Age with Disco Ringtones
on your mobile. I have travelled the world and seen everything
human beings can see.

Keep on being critical:)))))

Peter Kniepkamp, London, United Kingdom

Back in the magazine please!

Mark, London,

I completely understand the joy of not going out... I now have several friends who share this view. I never see them, of course.

Annie, Emsworth,