I am 36, and almost all guys are into me... how do I know, because men are so obvious and transparent. I can pick and choose whoever I want. For men, unless you are Young, handsome and rich, you won't get any obvious 'hints' for women, so good luck.

Emilie, wales, UK

I'm quite the opposite actually and have had woman approach me asking why i didn't come over and say hello, or if you felt that way why didn't you say something. A lot of woman assume all guys have confidence. We can be just as insecure as woman don't make that assumption!

Drew, London,

So Ariel, all the men you have known have always assumed women are into them unless they are lesbians? Where have you been living? In a cave full of neanderthals?

Graham, Bristol,

Pete, women are just the same but as you prob know, they mature faster so rather than being 46, they get bored by 25/26 and know they can get by fine without marriage, mess and hassle. But its nice to know that men Do catch up at some pt and feel the same :-)

Kira, slough, UK

I am afraid i really am one of those guys who cannot read the signals ! Can some one let me know what they are so i can look out for them ! I have found out retrospectively, that a girl(s) has/have been into me.....!

kamlesh, london, uk

Not all men assume you are into them. Its just the ones who are capable of asking you out are the type that do.

The men who don't think you like them are never going to ask you out in the first place, obviously really.

Still women always prefer men who assume you fancy them so don't complain at us

Matt, Cardiff,

Generally speaking, once a man reaches middle age he has become bored of the male-female mateing game. Having liberated himself from any meaningfull interest in what a woman 'thinks' or 'wants' he travels through life content, unassuming and with a smile on his face:-)

Pete, Hove, UK

I have found that women are into my wallet rather than me.

Scott, Bangkok, Thailand

Joe, Manchester- not attention per se. With animals, females let lesser males court as they give gifts of food, or it's a promising young'un who may become the alpha. Millions of years' evolution says we should be nice as you might buy us something, or one day kill your boss and take his office!

Lizzie, London,

No we don't. In fact I think the reverse - because like most people, I have my insecurities though I'm averagely attractive, and reasonably nice. I think the truth is women often pretend to be attracted to get attention.

Joe, Manchester,

Men don't 'pull'. The woman decides yes or no, and then sends out the appropriate signal. It is then up to the man to follow it through, or not.

mike, Rennes, Frogland

actually, i assume that no women are ever into me. then, on one of those weird days (where the world is spinning backwards, or the sun set at 11am) i can be nicely surprised.

aje, cardifff, wales

men have to make some sort of basic assumption:-) because everytime they meet the same women they get a different set of parameters to have to work with

Gareth Davies, Munich, Germany

I am 46 and I've had three women "really" into me. Why? Because that's normal guys. Are you listening? A woman will let you know if they're into you so quit trying so hard. The rest are friends and there are a lot of things a guy can learn from female friendships so pay attention.

chubb, det, us