Rosemary Bennett, Social Affairs Correspondent
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One in five teenagers has met someone face-to-face whom they first encountered on the internet, according to research into the risks taken by young people online.
The study found that teenagers also freely hand out personal information to strangers. Details divulged include full name (30 per cent), address (12 per cent), mobile number (20 per cent) and where they go to school (46 per cent), while 9 per cent had posted family photos.
Other surveys have found the number of teenagers meeting up offline ranges from 7 per cent to 14 per cent. Experts said that the growth in social networking sites such as MySpace could account for the higher figure in the more up-to-date research by Garick, the online security company, in March.
The study found that parents are often ignorant about what their children are up to, with only a fraction aware that they are befriending strangers.
Although nine out of ten parents questioned said that they monitored their children’s online activities, more than half the teenagers questioned admitted to going online without their parents’ knowledge, usually late at night.
John Carr, the Government’s adviser on online safety for children, said that girls were particularly at risk. “The most vulnerable group are girls between the ages of 12 and 15 who are going through puberty and becoming interested in boys and relationships,” he said. “You only need to listen to the news to see how common it is for girls to be lured into meetings.”
Most recently Jade Powell, a 14-year-old girl from Chelten-ham, went missing with an 18-year-old man she met on the internet. She was found safe and well five days later.
Another study, conducted last year by Webwise, found that 27 per cent of teenagers had encountered someone online who asked for personal information, such as a telephone number, while 23 per cent had received unwanted sexual advances.
Tom Ilube, chief executive of Garlik, urged parents to hammer home lessons on internet safety.
“Our research is a shocking wake-up call to all parents in the UK to sit down with their children and talk about how to keep safe online,” he said. “The Web is a wonderful place to explore but young people continue to make themselves vulnerable by not applying the same caution online as they would in person.”
Mr Carr said that parents were in a difficult position. “If they go on too much about it, or make out that the internet is completely unsafe, their children will just not listen.
“But it is part of modern parenting to teach children about the dangers of the internet, in the same way as teaching children the facts of life or to be honest.”
However, unlike the facts of life, parents frequently know little about the internet and feel ill-equipped to tackle the subject. To this end the Government has sponsored a site for parents, thinkyouknow.co.uk, which has useful advice and links to other relevant sites.
‘I have no idea what websites he visits’
Nicola Ejedewe says that she has no idea what her son Josh, 16, is up to as he spends hours in the sitting room on the family computer.
“It’s a huge world out there and I find it terrifying that I don’t really know,” she said. “Up until a few years ago I felt I had good parental control.
Now I don’t.” Mrs Ejedewe, 37 of North London, takes every opportunity to discuss safety with her son. “But I don’t have the knowledge to track what he has been doing and what sites he goes on,” she said.
Josh said: “My mum has a big thing about downloading sites because we have downloaded viruses in the past and then the computer has to be fixed. She has set up passwords for the music sites I use and only she has the password, so she has to be there for me to go on them.”
Josh chats to others online. “I have met people online from round here and it has been nice to chat to them. But I’d never agree to meet them.”
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Lured to meet strangers? Sometimes, perhaps, but anyone who has worked with teenagers knows how keen they can be to break bounds and go for adventure. In IT lessons in schools, even now with firewalls and security software, it can be a problem keeping eager children from unsuitable sites and stopping potentially dangerous behaviour.
If children were usually the passive partners, the problem would be smaller. The trouble is that many of them go aggressively "looking for it", and of those, many find casual sex and some find real trouble.
Unless we decide, and are able to, put a permanent stop to chatrooms and social sites we had better start disciplining and socialising our children better. The problem, as so often, starts at home.
Michael Bruce, Selby, Yorkshire
I've met people from internet chat rooms and social networks in the flesh and i've never had a problem with it. However i due feel people's concerns about it, as my little sister goes on similar sites and my parents and myself have no idea what she's doing.
I feel that social networking sites are safe, but of course there are people out there willing to exploit them for what ever reason. The only thing parents can do is trust their children and check the internet history if they're worried.
Steve, Leeds, UK
The rules for our 2 are
No Photos (in or out)
No Surnames
No Addresses
No phone numbers , mobile or otherwise.
And definitely - no meeting!
It may sound restrictive, and "Oh Dad why cant we? Everybody else does!'' comes up with monotonous regularity!
It's fine to say keep the computer in a public room but when they are trying to concentrate on homework and essays etc, the peace of their own rooms is better for them to work without the distraction of 2 levels of homework, the news, the dog scrounging food - etc!. I regularly check the computers, but as my daughters are far more techically able at 12 & 14 than I am, I'm not sure how much of a deterrent that is! The threat of a months grounding works best!
Common sense and trust are the key I think. If you're worried about them sneaking on late at night, hard wire the computer on a timer. Not much good when everybody has a wireless laptop, but there you go! At the end of the day its a balance.
Mike Asacret, Cambridge, England