´m proud of you. At the end you were strong enough to tell your story so honestly. Be proud of what you and Jon afforded.
It´s so important that more and more people talk about sexual abuse - that one day it happens less and less. Thanks Julia for your story!

Julia, Vienna, Austria

wow your a strong strong person I think your amazing your book made me cry but I am so glad the truth was shown.
Love

lisa, edinburgh,

hello there,

i read your book and i understand how feel as i was abused by gran dad n even though hes gone i still deep down love him and your story helped alot, you should be very proud of your self for the people you have helped coz i know im one of them.

thank you julia

victoria , colchester,essex, england

thankyou for having the courage to open up about the abuse, i also was brought your book by my daughters but was unable to pick it up, but i did and now i understand that it was all right to still have feelings for my father and it was normal to feel guilty myself bless you

anita, carmarthen, wales

oh my dear! what a courage it took for you to come out of shadow. I really want to say...you have done well. while i was traveing in asia, I saw a TV channel which spoke about sexually abused by her brother but, no family will suport her rather trying to make her shut off and even hit her because .

mimi, seoul,

Hi , I spent last night reading your book and finished the whole thing in one go! I had bought the book a while back but didn't have the courage to read it!!! sounds silly huh??? This is my story with different names...but i am only 3/4 of the way through mine....not sure if and when to pursue it..

Katt, NSW, Australia

Cannot imagine what Julia went through, I now look at my parnets and think how lucky I am. I have still not finished reading the book and don't know if I can as I am so angry at both her father and brother. I hope you, Jon and your kids have a happy life together, God bless x

tracy finnigan, Glasgow, Scotland

Julia thank you for opening your heart and life on abuse, the more we talk on this subject, the more eyes are enlightened.
Once I picked up this book I could not put it down.
Keep going to the schools and blow wide open the TRUTH that this is happening to our youth.

Claire, Milton, New Zealand

A brave and amazing lady, here,s wishing you sucess and happiness in your future life. You are so lucky to have found Jon who sounds like a truly amazing man
Best Wishes to you both always.
Gale Latham.

Gale latham, Shrewsbury, england

I have just finished reading your book, and it gives an amazing insight into the mind of the abuser. How he felt what he had done was acceptable and then how he had forced himself to forget other things he had done.

I just want to say my own personal thank you for what you are doing to make sexual abuse an issue, as some people will not be confident enough to speak up and make their voice heard.
Thank you

Lisa, Kent,

Edward in Somerset, what a disgusting and warped view on things. I fear for any children you may have

AnneMarie, cORK,

Thank you for including this story. I show all the behaviour patterns of an abused child but have no memory of abuse; I am still learning at 30 that it's not appropriate to cuddle and kiss people who are dear to me. Abuse is so isolating and destructive. Not only in shattering your childhood through the acts but also in your family, friends, peers, employers, teachers and even doctors attitude towards you. You become the thing that is wrong as it's only evidence.

I try to work hard, to be kind and generous and be a good member of society but people are suspicious if you choose to live alone, to not date because you tremble at contact unless drunk, and I have learned that to tell them is to lose their respect and suddenly they become very busy or willing to take advantage. Bless the boyfriends who think that the nightmares and panic attacks will stop because they are sleeping with me. I do find peace when they sleep next to me.
Respect people's privacy but please be kind and inclusive

T, London,

I am just wondering, what is in their heads while doing IT????

sheila, UK,

Being a victim of abuse myself, I can't imagine having a family member arrested. Seems she could have kept her children away from her father without ruining her parents' life and any relationship she had with them.

Kristina, London, Englad

I think Julia is admirable - she has remained a moral, loving person in the face of appalling treatment by her parents.

If Julia or any other abused person needs support, try calling NAPAC - the National Association for People Abused in Childhood. NAPAC offers a supportive listening ear, and can also direct people to further sources of help. Call 0800 085 3330 or look on their website, www.napac.org.uk .

K John, London, UK

You should be ashamed of yourself Edward. Your comments show that you know nothing about the subject. Even then you should at least be able to sympathise, if not empathise, with this woman. She's been through hell.

D, London,

Well done, Julia!

Child abuse is never, ever to be tolerated or justified.
You went through hell, first by being abused by your father and
later on by being rejected by your mother for defending yourself. They don't deserve your love.

Gloria C., Bruxelles, Belgium

"What a whiner!"? Are you the same planet as the rest of us, Edward? One would think, from your comment, that you advocate incest and child abuse...the mind boggles!

L, London,

Edward, might you be on the wrong side of the exact same sort of situation?

conny, London,

A very sad story - you've lost both parents through no fault of your own. You made the right decision - your dad needed to be punished - a shame your mother is too frightened of being alone to leave him - a strange thing to put your husband before your children - but probably due to low self esteem and not enough confidence to step into an unknown future.

Louisa , Colchester, essex

No one should have to suffer abuse in silence to be considered "loyal", Edward.

Tommie, Leiden, The Netherlands

Good for you. I know a little how you feel as I was abused by an uncle. That's awful that your own mother repeatedly put her paedophile husband over her helpless child. Well done for moving on from that & reconciling your strange love & their behaviour as best you can. No one would blame you for hating them thoroughly, they are poison but it's tough when they are as close family as yours.

Marion, Royston,

what a whiner!! c'mon she is seeking destruction and not a loyal child at all.

Edward, bridgend, somerset