Q. I live alone and struggle to meet people. My recent divorce knocked my confidence with people but I now feel ready to take control and wonder if a dog might provide a solution

Carol Smillie

TV presenter Carol Smillie lives in Glasgow with her husband and three children, Christie, 13, Robbie, 10, and Jodie, 8. They bought Jess, a black labrador, last November. Carol supports the University of Glasgow's Faculty of Veterinary Medicine and is fundraising for a Small Animal Hospital.

When a marriage breaks up, one partner is often left with rather a lot of time on his or her hands, and it can be hard knowing what to do with your newfound leisure time. I think a dog is a good way to fill that gap. You'll be surprised how many people you'll meet out in the park or at puppy training classes. There were lots of friendly people at the training class I attended with my son and Jess earlier this year. And, though I hasten to say that I've been happily married for 17 years, I couldn't help noticing that some nice single men were in attendance. There are worse ways to meet somebody, and owning a dog gives you immediate common ground.

A dog also will get you out of the house and keep you fit. And although a dog's love lacks the depth of any human interaction, for me that's part of their appeal. They are non-judgmental, don't answer back and they love you just because you're there. That can be refreshing if you've been hurt. But a dog's unconditional nature also makes it uncompromising and naturally needy. Remember, too, that having a dog is not a one-sided relationship; you'll have to be dedicated as you'll be taking on a lot of responsibility.

Emma Magnus

Emma has a degree in zoology and a masters degree in applied animal behaviour and animal welfare. She has worked with veterinary practices in East Anglia for 15 years and runs puppy parties to teach the basics of good behaviour. She is also the author of How to Have a Relaxed Rabbit (Pet Behaviour Centre, £3.50).

Going through a divorce can knock your self-esteem, so it is important to put yourself first and take some time to feel better. If you think that a dog could help you to focus on the positive aspects of life, then I see no reason why it isn't a good decision.

Choose a breed that fits your lifestyle. If you are fit and active, you could consider a terrier, collie or spaniel. If you are more sedentary, go for a smaller breed - or perhaps a retired racing greyhound. They do not need long walks and will be grateful for a new home.

You may not feel that you have the energy and mental stamina required for a puppy, so why not think about a rescue dog. You are in an ideal position to give a home to an unwanted dog and it is a misconception that you may be taking on someone else's problems. Many dogs end up in rescue centres when their owners divorce and, even if there is a problem, most centres now have behaviourists who can help you to overcome issues such as over-attachment and anxiety.

There is also a social aspect to owning a dog. Most parks have groups of people walking their dogs together; you may find notices about them in your local vet's surgery or pet shop. If this feels too daunting at present, even walking in the same place at the same time every day means that you will start to see familiar faces. Dogs can be the perfect icebreaker; they will often greet other walkers like long-lost friends, giving you the opportunity to strike up a conversation.

Of course you may, like Davina McCall, meet your future partner while you're out walking. But initially focus on the loyalty, enjoyment and fun to be had while you work on your tattered self-esteem.

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