The article is really intersting. It seems that the writer lady is sexually empowered.

Great.

D Sarkar, Dhaka, Bangladesh

I found this acticle by typing into google "Do women really pay for sex". It's astonishing to find that women will pay upto £600.00 when men pay about £150.00. However, that does not include taking the client to events and restaurants. I always thought that women only had to click their fingers

Jon, London, Barnet

I think she's brilliant.

Nikki, Nicosia,

What a wonderful article! I thank the woman the wrote it and praise the beauty of female sexuality. The only thing that doesn't add up here is how our society is twistedly afraid of the honest expression of sexuality. We want to use sex to sell & manipulate but attack every genuine expression of it

Joshua, Atlanta, USA

Paxalot.....A woman prefers a pulse followed by an orgasm and not just a vibrator. You have alot to learn about female sexuality.

Christine, Sacramento, USA

Lady, it's called a vibrator - costs next to nothing. Get one.

Paxalot, Ottawa, Canada

Somethng doesn't add up in this story. The woman says that her husband and she had a great sex life and yet down bellow describing Justin's candles and his attention, she poses a question: "how many men still be doing that after trhee years in an ordinary relationship". Apparently her husband did.

Elena, NY, US

The good lady has her head properly screwed on. She has the situation under her control; that is the way it should be. If she obtains the satisfaction she needs from such an arrangement, then good for her. Everything is clear, both parties understand the arrangement and no-one is hurt. Surely, this is an example of good honest dealing, No betrayals, no affair behind a partner's back. Ideal! I only wish I had the staying power for such an occupation!!

Derek, Baliwag, Philippines

I think that this is great. Good for her. She has found something that works for her, is not destructive, is enjoyable. The money aspect is an energy exchange thing and, as everyone knows, is necessary for any relationship. There has to be some kind of energy exchange that works for both parties. Money is not the root of all evil just like men/women are not the root of all evil, either. Here, money works for her, rather than an emotional payment or laundry or whatever. She's been married, she's has a working relationship with her kids and family and friends. Way to go! If everyone were as honest about energy exchange in their relationships as this story, we'd all be happier - or else screwing our lives up differently. Kiss!

Barry, St. Louis, USA

It's fun to believe we can be just as happy by taking the easier route. We now in our hearts that it's hollow, lonely, and unfulfilling, but it's fun to believe that wickedness can bring happiness. The women all praise her saying, "Good for her, but I could never do that." The author writes to convince herself. I don't feel judgment; I feel pity.

Paul, Pasadena, California

I think this is marvelous. The lady in question has definately thought it through. Who is to say wether it is right or wrong, the answer is different for everyone.
I myself have been divorced since my children were very young, they are now grown up.
I have never remarried and believe this could be the answer to my prayers.
We are like a classic car, we all need a good service now and again.

Stacy davies, cardiff, uk

Completely ridiculous to pay a man for sex! And the other way round!

Stan Wang, Boston, USA

Nothing wrong with this at all. I also pay a man for regular sex - it is so much easier than trying to play the singles/pick up scene. And like buying anything else, I suggest you always inspect the goods before parting with cash.

Max Leffen, London, UK

@Omeca -- regarding your comment "She is worth more than that." -- perhaps potentially, but not in terms of current market results

Bluto, New York City,

Oh who cares what other people get up to in their sex lives?

Well, everybody apparently otherwise we wouldn't have such a glut of "real life'" magazines and people like this airing their slightly soiled laundry. But really if everyone just got with their own lives blah blah blah...
The real question is why does the author need to tell other people what she is up to when the kids have gone to Daddy's. There is more than a sense that part of the thrill of this lifestyle choice is thinking about what everyone might think if they knew.
Well now we do. Yawn. Next.

svt, brizzle,

While many people might say this is immoral, I think the arrangement is far better for your children than dragging new boyfriends in and out of their life. Everyone gets what they want, no one is hurt, and your children don't have to deal with the emotional ups and downs of mommy's break-ups. If only all of life could be his simple, eh?

Jenn, Bay Area, CA

How can anyone be jealous of a woman who has to pay to be made love to.

She is worth more than that.

Omeca, Virginia Beach, Virginia Beach

I get it-you're that woman in Brief Encounter-I always wondered what happened to her.

Lord Truth, Budapest,

Hard to believe that people find this either immoral or, based on many readers' comments, repulsive.
Sounds to me like alot of the readers are envious.
"Free" relationships are often dysfunctional.
Prostitution is not so unlike many businesses.
PS I can think of a few fine men who married very wealthy women and why the hell not?
I am going to have to say it too: You go girl!

robert, new york, ny

Have only read half of these comments and they are absolutely hilarious!

I fully agree with the positive minority; if its not hurting you or the other party, go for it.

For the 'Mr Angry of Mayfair' types - get a life and/or hone your body/looks/technique. Sour grapes are most unattractive.

To the moral highground gang, carry on praying and abstaining, but it will never satisfy you in the way that exciting sex will.

To the smug marrieds; count yourself lucky, its very hard to meet the right person. That said, the majority of men that hit on me are bored husbands, so maybe you are living in a fools paradise. And I'll tell you something else, the majority of my female married friends are almost ALWAYS short changed in bed, even the newly weds.

To the 'I'll give her it for free' brigade, you really don't get it do you? Sure most women can pull in a bar, but they are not guaranteed a hot body and a fantastic considerate performance, let alone an orgasm!

Lady, good luck to you!

Wendy K, London,

"I know of a woman in the Netherlands with a similar story but with a difference, she was enslaving an illegal immigrant for the sex.He ran away when the first chance came up. - salem Mo, Dubai, UAE."

That's horrible! I'm glad he ran away.

VampireDelphine, San Francisco, California USA

Not only is this prostitution, but it is simply morally corrupt. This woman is living in a dream world. Reality is what it is, and she is simply abusing sex like another person would abuse drugs. Escapism is often referred to by psychologists in these cases, and this is clearly an obvious example.

One would consider the consequences as severe, then, if this arrangement should cease to exist. Good luck and, let's have a moment of realism: the woman is a disgrace. I'm sure she is not the only one, however.

Daniel Scullane, Bath,

In case it hasn't been explained, "Go girl" is short for "You go girl", which is used as a way to show approval, support, or enthusiasm for a girl and/or the situation in which she is presently or was very recently involved. It also implies a certain level of indepence or self-reliance on the part of the receipient.

As far as the article is concerned, I think she wants the convenience of this arrangement, and she enjoys the lack of responsibilites and obligations that come with a relationship. Based on the ritual she goes through to ensure that nobody close discovers the arrangment, and the way she discusses the benefits, I think that she feels ashamed to be paying for sex, and at the same time, she wants to feel secure in her decision. A lot of the article felt like she was rationalizing away feelings. She is not being honest with herself, and I think the real reason she does not want to get into a relationship is that she fears being hurt again.

Michael, Severn, Maryland, USA

I've been married to the same woman for 29 years. Both of us have been enjoying a wonderful loving, interactive, faithful relationship with each other. We both are equally committed to each other and invest totally in the other. We are completely fulfilled free of charge. Truth, honesty, integrity, stability, hope and mutual trust still prevails. No secrecy, lying, cheating, pretending, faking, or defrauding happens. As parents we managed - by God's grace - to provide a safe, secure home for our children who are all grown-ups now. When my eldest daughter was in grade 8 she noticed that she was more secure in our home than some of her more affluent peers who came from fragmented families. Parents should lead by example.

Lady in the feature article: You're running! You don't know what you are missing. My children won't one day stumble across a nasty, embarrassing surprise that we have kept from them all along. Imagine your child's disgust and resentment if she is to catch you out!!

Dirk, Dubai, UAE

i have an ofer for you ?
pay for me half what you pay to him and I'll stay with you a week.

Don't miss that offer.

chance comes one in a life .

salem, hail, saudi arabia

Why do all the USA contributors keep on saying 'Go girl' is it a sporting term?

Juliana, London, England

WOW!
O.K. who is next?

mack, Harrow/London, UK

It appears that this lady very smart in knowing what she likes and living her life. How many women can say the same? I admire her for doing this since the alternative proves unworthy. Obviously, her actions had contradicted the presumption that women and men regard sex differently. With education, intelligence and international exposure comes tolerance,undertanding and open mindedness. What matters in the end is that one is happy and satisfied. Being happy makes her a better mother and a much pleasant person to have in the world! Why condemn?

Sheen O, London,

I say whatever works for you, and doesn't harm anyone, particularly when the person doesn't want to introduce men short term into her childrens lives... everyone deserves a life, and feeling good about themselves. As for the Milwaukee religious person giving "advice" unless you walk in another persons shoes don't criticise. A lot of religious people are hypocrites anyway. Then there is Jo from Australia who is a pessimist, saying he might be repulsed. On the other hand he might enjoy her as much as she enjoys him..if she has money so what, Australians gamble more than that a month....I am Australian and live in the US...coming from Kingaroy your view is probably narrow, so lighten up and at least say something positive
Helen from Seattle USA previously Melbourne Australia

HMG, Renton, WA USA

Just a quick comment....you think that your being secret....but guess what? God see's you....and in the end...that's all that is going to matter....and you are committing sin...no matter which way you look at it. you better think it over.

Joanie, Milwaukee, Wisconsin

of course he is attentive.all that money just for having a good time.has this woman no self respect?this man doesnt see her as a person,he only sees dollar signs.if the truth be known,he is probably repulsed by her,but he will pretend she is something special,just as he probably does with other women.

jo, kingaroy, australia

What's so special?
I have been doing that with 2 women for the last 12 years. and I was 26 when I started, and the going rate is a normal rate. If she wasn't satisfied she could find another guy, maybe cheaper, but the cheaper you get the more dangerous it is.
I am paid train tickets to paris where I meet one of my"clients" and spend the weekend with her she is a wealthy lady and lives also in another country.
I also have another lady that lives in Richmond and been with her for the last 8 years . Don't see that anormal good luck to her and Justin , so what!!!! the secrecy and the aventure is half orgasm.

MB, Weybridge, UK

i dont believe a word of this. a woman NEVER has to pay for
sex; she Gets paid for it. It's called "Dating."

gary biester, anytown, US

Idiocy is being celebrated as modernity. Equality does not mean that men and women are exactly the same and are expected to behave all the same. Women who overcelebrate their so-called power and fail to realise thier natural limitations and cultural obligations often end up frustrated in the end. Wether or not you agree with me, one certain fact is that women expire quite easily while men remain viable for almost as long as they live. A woman who spends away her productive age in pursuance of frivolities would regret bitterly in the end when she would be lonely and cold...

Ezhi Opfu, London, UK

This is pure pulp fiction. Wake up and write a novel if you want to entertain yourself and other people with your sexual fantasies.

Axel, Helsinki,

Bit of a sad story to have to pay for sex but then if your a bit of rough thats about all the sex your going to get.

Ajer, Reading, UK

It must be nice to have £8,000.00 (incl. travel expenses) per annum lying around to spend on a bit of 'slap and tickle'.

I want that part-time job!

I dont have that much left when I have finished paying Income Tax, National Insurance, Car Road Fund Licence, Fuel Excise Duty, VAT, Council Tax, Green Tax, Car Insurance Tax, MOT Tax, and every other tax, etc.....

Mind you, if I went to a Lap-Dancing Club, would that count as Pole-Tax ?

Phillip Jesson, Melton Mowbray, UK

Hang on a minute, why is SHE having to pay HIM? Surely they could call it quits?

Alicia, Rome, Italy

"He makes me feel that I’m the centre of attention, he’s very protective and caring, we have a laugh and a chat and the sex gets better and better. He always makes it special with candles and things. How many men would still be doing that after three years in an ordinary relationship?"

Of course he would do that, he's getting paid 600 for the night, so its well worth his time to do it.

Jono, Swansea, United Kingdom

How on earth can you afford to work part time with kids and pay £600 for sex? Either this woman has a great divorce lawyer, a rich ex-husband or a fabulously well paid job. As they say on the advert....I'd rather have the money!

Lou, London,

The main reason of this is the adventure. If it was public there would be no excitement. The "fair" sex has strong passion and imagination. This is rare to find in men. I found one but he was right only as a lover and it lasted only one year. Especially after a long marriage (although this one already ended) a woman needs to be something different from a wife and mother. So this is the reason of a secret alternative life. I understand her but i find it a fake. I would prefer to have occasional sex with different men that it may happen they find me appealing.

Marina, Rome,

How many men who visit prostitutes need them to "make it special using candles & things?'
Whatever the arrangement with Justin, it's clear that the parralels with men who pay women for sex aren't so straightforward. She is stuck between her natural/conditioned need for sex to have at least the surface appearance of an emotionally significant romantic encounter & her entirely valid fear of truly engaging in a relationship. If she is being honest, it's a substitute for the real thing but how often do you find that anyway? At least she's getting laid & if she's anything like most women, that's better for her & all around her.

lee, tokyo, japan

How refreshingly honest this account is. Ironic really just as the Nulabour feminist Sisterhood led by Harriet Hormone are
planning to criminalise men who pay for sex - but of course not women. What would their reaction be if his piece were written by a man? New Age Feminism is creating dangerous and hypocritical double standards -time for a male backlash! (Not literally)

David, Uzes, France

sophisticado

mubvumbi, newport, South Wales

Dear male colleagues,
There isn't anything to condemn. Times are for good changed.
In the past that was a perquisite booked up for us. Now we can read that an ordinary lady do what she wants remorseless. I see that as a sort of development.
I beg only one thing from our female counterparts: please try to sympathize with us, we aren't so unlikes as you judged us before.

Roberto - , Rome , Italy

The comments are interesting and I would never pass judgement on the woman's choice as to how she solves a problem and spends her money, but what amazes me is that she can be so clinical about it. I think most of my friends, no matter how desperate would be ashamed to pay a man. Since men are traditionally the pursurers, it seems a little "contre-nature".

Sara H., London, UK

I am amused at the article. I have been married for over 30 years and we still use candles ! We still Love & respect each other and surprise! surprise ! We still have great Sex.
Sorry,I am a bit old fashioned but very grateful for my lifetime partner.
Happily married

Jeff, London, UK

Where's the story and the man paying for sex? Funny that such stories would only appear in sleazy magazines and the man would be judged by society to be a pervert, sex pest etc....

Chris, london, uk

So a woman paying £600 a month for sex is empowerment and choice - whereas a bloke paying £50 for a quick roll with a girl whose number he found in a phone box is sleazy and wrong. I see...

Hercule, En Bas,

Men did this for centuries, why not women?
To Nick, france: you ask if a man can offer sex without money, but this is love and love is relationship with which men give troubles to women. May be you are nice, but if you offer love you want something other, like women who offer sex without money.

carmen, palermo, italy

Perhaps Ms Harman would like to read this and then withdraw her stupid comments of making payment for sex illegal! No doubt she was trying to drum up the oppressed woman image and sex trafficing angle when she made her misguided comments, but failed to highlight some people manage this type of 'relationship' and transaction between adults rather well. Ms Harman and her New Labour cronies as ever wish to use new laws to deal with problems they caused, if these people wish to meet have sex and pay either of them from their own money that is their choice and no big brother nanny state is required, alought I can see some people getting an added buzz from the chancellor not taxing the business aspect of it!

Richard de Gerber, Kingston upon Thames, UK

Men have been paying for sex for ages. Women should be able to do the same & not be judged!

Sarah, London,

I`ll help you out for free, if you ever near Warrington.

Alan, Warrington., England.

People seem to object much more strongly to men paying for sex, and because this is obviously a 'high-class' affair (£600 a month is no small outgoing!) everyone appears to be behind it. I personally have no objection, and think we should look at legalising prostitution (why sweep the oldest practice in the world under the carpet?), but we need to address this double standard, first and foremost!

Tom, London,

It's been going on forever. When I was in my mid 20s in the 1970s I spent a summer in Athens providing services to middle aged (and some quite elderly) women from Germany, Holland and Scandinavia who would travel to Greece for an annual sex holiday. I made a fortune and it set me up for a lifetime of being able to totally pleasure my partners.

Still going strong in my 60s !!

Migar Roth, Sunshine Coast, Australia

Good luck to you. If you need the sex and he needs the money, both are getting what you want. He's lucky getting both sex and money.

Go for it and don't let any do-gooders tell you it's wrong, obscene or any of that bull.

Robin, Al Ain, UAE

Hello there, when are you coming to Australia?? I'll help you out for free.....no strings attached.
:)

Sean, Sydney, Australia

I think this is great and it's odd that a lot of men can't cope with the idea of a woman paying for sex. I actually have no problem with either men or women paying for sex. Where is the issue? It's a simple straightforward transaction - no emotional problems at all. How many women in stable relationships would like to be wined and dined regularly, go and see a show perhaps and then have enjoyable sex - whether or not the man stays the night? At least you know the man will listen to your conversation because he's being paid to do so.
The women who have been nasty about this writer - how many of you are jealous of her courage in going and getting what she needs? Moral indignation is often jealousy with a halo.

Jilly, Boston, UK

So when women pay men for sex it 'makes them more relaxed'.

What do we presume sex with a prostitute makes men feel eh?

A more violent thug?

The problem with this country is this:

1. We have no proper introduction to sex in PRACTICAL terms - no, not lessons, but sensible, gradual, appropriate introductions.
2. We still demand lifetime fidelity, even if that doesn't appear sensible to many, many couples.
3. We then ostracise those who, quite sensibly, include sex with another partner as part of their life management.

My solution for around 20% of the population:

1. Promote rampant sex between 18 - 21 year old men and 35 - 40 year old women. The older women want it, the exuberance and directness of young men may not suit less experienced girls.
2. Promote romantic sex between 18 - 21 year old women and 35 - 40 year-old men.
3. Gradually reduce the age of the older partner as the younger ones mature.
4. Suggest they get married at 27 - 30.

Rhys Jaggar, Leeds, UK

From one woman to another: well done! Don't take any notice of the guys on here with all their varied, outdated hang-ups. We live in a tough, complicated world and so have to be responsible for our happiness. I say this: a happy, satisfied person, man or woman, has more time for others and more to give than someone beset by loneliness and insecurities, so be proud and strong and happy. All power to you.

Zara, Bath, UK

all these negative and agressive comments here are really hypocritical. who ever said that sex has to be done in any specific way, according to specific rules ? if she likes to pay in order to keep control over her sex life, i. e. not loosing her time every weekend to pick somebody up or to have a time consuming, complicated, family involving relationship that needs long explanations to the kids every time it changes, then it's perfect ! she decides when to have sex, just as all the men who pay women for the same reason. THANK YOU FOR DOING THIS! finally women arrive to them the same level of decomplexed sexlife as men. that is probably what neither some men nor some women here accept.
pat from paris

pat, paris, france

Nothing wrong with this at all. I also pay a man for regular sex - it is so much easier than trying to play the singles/pick up scene. And like buying anything else, I suggest you always inspect the goods before parting with cash.

Max Leffen, London, UK

Cheers to SEX(!!) Life for which you pay. Seems you are surely differently able in many ways:-/

ZIco, Newcastle, UK

There seem to be a lot of comments to the effect of 'who cares? it's a private, economic, arrangement'. How quaint! Does anyone still seriously believe in a concept of 'private morality'? Does that extend to privately downloading free pictures of paedophile abuse? Divorce, leaving her kids overnight, wasting money - private morality? public? Or both? And how can this arrangement be termed private when it is published on a national newspaper's web site? Doh!

And there seems to be a lot of angst about those who might care to pass comment on the morality of others. This puerile and selfish 'leave me alone, I can do what I want' is pure oxygen to our idiotic 'are you looking at me' feral culture. I wish more of us would stand up for what we know to be right, including the not-so-'private' faults of a hormonally enslaved mother.

Better to have standards and miss than have no standards at all. Liberal western culture is all about selfish convenience - it is now becoming a public one.

Andy, London,

I think that Robert,London is just jealous.I guess it's kinda hard to accept that someone is getting paid to have what I think YOU can't get for free. The fact that you call women 'slutty' shows that,in my opinion.

I think that the lady said 'he makes it special with candles and things';I'm sure you'll be intelligent enough to realise that she's talking about the whole romantic ambiance ,as if things between them were more meaningful besides sex.

Louis Smythe-Silva, Sintra, Portugal

From the beginning of mankind there isn't anything so stupid that it isn't invented.At least that lady doesn't pretend that the Holy Ghost or any God has recommended her this procedure.

Rolf-Peter Lacher, Gammertingen, Germany

Those who say this is made up, don't forget 'journalists' are paid to write...anything to fill column inches. I work in finance and my colleagues and I regularly pick holes in what finance journos write about what we do for a living.

Karim, London,

I don't really understand how it can be considered to be "special" with dinners, candles, etc when you know that the man in question is only making an effort it because you pay him. He doesn't think you are special or so at all, otherwise he would do it all for you FOR FREE. So what does the author have left when the delusion is taken away? Are you really happy even if you know all of it is fake?

Irene Almvallen, Maida Vale, UK

As long as she is happy, how she spends her time and money is her business. We all have our own (grubby?) little secrets so who are we to criticise or ridicule?

Philip C, Brisbane, Australia

Despite the fact you can afford to pay £600 once or twice a month it doesn't make you any less slutty then the average girl on the street who gives it away for free on a Saturday night behind hte back of a nightclub.

And how will you feel when your 'secret' life becomes public. You'll be found out one day that's for sure. I mean you could walk into a hotel resturant and see loads of your girlfriends there on a night out.

And if simply using candles ' makes it really special' then lady, you've not seen much in your vast experience of secret sex.

Robert, London,

Some like danish donuts, some like creme filled choux.. but the tastiest dish of all is the Tart.
I would like to do this (gigolo part) but have neither the time or the expertise... they would end up getting a 50% refund. Still , I;d walk away having had a nice dinner, some drinks and £175... which has never happened on any other dates I've been on.

Elwin parsley, london , UK

I am a Polish immigrant and would undercut that £600 charge quite substantially and throw in a few piano lessons as well.

Chopin. F, london,

OK this is the internet and we can all lie but what I am about to tell you is the truth.

I am male. I am American, 42. 6'2" (for some reason reason height is very important in these matters) and reasonable fit as in maybe a kilo or two overweight at most.

I have recently moved to London and am beating English married women off with a stick. And some of these women are very hot.

All say their husbands no longer take care of their physicals needs.

If you do not believe me try any cafe in Wimbledon any day of the week.

I think I should start charging too.

What happened to English men that this should be so?

Tobe, London,

this is really sad, for a women initimacy is not only physical but mental, the entire idea of being protected, being supported emotionally all part of the sex. I can't simply relate to this. She is basically paying this guy to keep him, what is the point of dinners and shows? what do you talk about? how bizzarr !!

Malo, London,

What do you mean he "makes it special with candles"?

picazo, madrid, madrid

Like Picazo I am concerned. Does this mean that the gigolo is not inexhaustable? I hope that in contrast, the candles are long lasting!
Happy New Year.

Anne Wotana Kaye, London, England

So many people on here are judging this lady. Why? What's it got to do with them? Here are 2 adults who are making their own arrangement. They are both happy with it. Nobody else is being harmed.

My take on it? Good on you, love!

You could also swap the sexes around and the situation would be exactly the same.

Those who think that they have a right to judge people like this or - even worse - think that what is going on should be 'banned' really need to get a life.

Jon Leigh, Southern, France

One issue is a single/divorced woman with kids wanting and needing some sexual (and other) intimacy but without risk of rocking the boat of juggling the pressures and demands of a growing family. A separate issue is, how to achieve that? With some diligence (and a lot less cost) it must be possible to find a decent guy who would perhaps have a similar need, and come to an agreeable relationship, with enough maturity to handle any complicaitons. This story (I don't believe all elements of it) assumes there are no such men (though I guess they won't all be as fit as 'Justin'!). £600 (or sometimes £1200) is far too much money to invest in this. I fully endorse a woman or man's needs to find relief and intimacy, but I don't admire the lack of creativity or resourcefulness portrayed here in finding it. Money must be no issue for this woman - she could not live with the guilt of her children going without PS2s and iPods whilst spending so much . Thus an unapplicable message for most.

Peter, Sheffield,

What do you mean he "makes it special with candles"?

picazo, madrid, madrid

When men avail themselves of the service of a prostitute it is regarded disgusting and sordid by women. The prostitutes involved are viewed as victims, forced to earn their living at the hands of men who simply 'use' them. Those same men can find themselves in court for charged with paying for sex. But when women pay men for sex it's seen as natural, adventurous and clever almost. Discuss.

Dan, London,

I have not had sex for over 17 years..If she can make it work? she can have it FREE.

Ron Hanley, Brisbane, Australia

I notice that in the majority of comments, it is women being the most nasty towards this woman. I suspect that is because they feel it is someone who (in their eyes) is handing away that power over men that women so often preciously and smugly like to retain when it comes to sex. You're taught it from day one, that what you have between your legs can be used to make men grovel. That is why it is also usually the women on these articles deriding men too for being "sad losers" when they pay for sex. Because again it takes away that power, as long as the man pays the cash. Now that a woman is willingly giving it away and a man is actually making a fortune out of it, you're going berserk. At the end of the day it's her choice. Her life. None of your business. And none of your petty looking down your noses at her will chang her (despite what you think). Go back to your "non" gigolo husbands now, bitter dears..

Lucozade, South East, Britain

Whatever gets you through the night,
is alright.
Whatever gets you through the day,
is OK.
John Lennon.

Colin, Kelowna BC, Canada

I hope he is paying tax on his earnings

Howard, Milton Keynes, UK

"He makes me feel that I’m the centre of attention, he’s very protective and caring, we have a laugh and a chat and the sex gets better and better. He always makes it special with candles and things. How many men would still be doing that after three years in an ordinary relationship?"

Well in his case its because he's being paid to dear! It satisfies your ego and keeps the cash rolling in for him. So according to whats written here - take the money out of the equation and Justin wouldnt give you the time of day... and he seems to be a convenient excuse to not persue the kind of romance you say you want. What Id love to know is wheres the money coming from. I work full-time in a good paying roll and I dont have anywhere near a spare £600 a month to pay for something I can actually get for a lot less if not free...

Lisa, London,

i would do it if someone tells me where to sign up!!! ive got a great bod, and need extra cash for final year doing a law degre!! LOL

mus, london,

I have two very good male (platonic) friends who have earned their keep as escorts. They both tell me that demand far outstrips supply for this service. The typical client is married to a well off career man, children late teens, too much time and money on her hands during the week, needing to indulge herself beyond the normal manicure/pedicure. It's the husbands I feel most sorry for. In the meantime, the escorts can afford to be choosy and have up to seven regular clients each (morning appointments favoured when husbands are at work) and are basically being paid £350 for a few hours work that they'd generally do for nothing anyway. These women are just tragic. Paying for sex is never a good thing but it does seem so much worse when it's the women paying. And not even with money they earned themselves.

Sara, Beaconsfield,

Seems interesting as a novel way to get rid of the full package of relationships' emotional toll et all, but still for how long? will she survive losing him, or he losing her?
I know of a woman in the Netherlands with a similar story but with a difference, she was enslaving an illegal immigrant for the sex.He ran away when the first chance came up.

salem Mo, Dubai, UAE

The support for this woman differs drastically from the vilification the men in this article receive for exactly the same practice:
http://timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/men/article627388.ece
On another note, her keeping it secret does not mean it is wrong, nor does it mean that she believes it to be wrong. It is simply her acceptance that the majority of society (or at least hers) sees it as an unsuitable practice. Right, wrong, moral, immoral is all relative.

John Doe, London,

I had never thought of this idea. Say what you will people, but there is something to what she is doing. I too am divorced with children at home, I do not have the time or desire at this point to try to form a relationship. Hey you know what to expect, you get to live your own life, and just because you do not have a 'husband/boyfriend' doesn't mean you are sexually dead. You go GIRL!!!

Shellie, Oklahoma, USA

I spent all of my adult life enjoying the thrill of having sex with a wide range of sex-workers around the world. I took precautions. I gave up completely when I went to Thailand and ended up with a 'Ladyboy' who looked like a lady but was a man. I was robbed and threatened with male rape which scared the living day light out of me. I lost my passport, money, camera, ipod and tickets to a concert. Never again I said. I've had my chance and that is it now.

John Inspect-Clinch , London, UK

One of my colleagues, a businessman who was born in India and who goes to that country quite often, told me that in some major cities in India it has become quite common for some middle-class and upper-class Hindu women to discreetly use the service of male gigolos. The places where these fellows hang out, is not known to the general public, but get known by word-of-mouth within certain social circles.

C. Alexander Brown, Rockcliffe Park, Canada

Urgh. This makes me feel so sick. Doing something that you are so ashamed of that you cannot share withany of your friends or family inevitably means that you know what you are doing is wrong. I'm sure this woman is a brilliant mother, daughter, friend etc in many ways and I don't mean to sound so judgemental, but I really think she will regret this in a few years time.

Kate, London,

Interesting what you are saying Doug, for a start HIV is an STD.. also Herpes is very common almost 80% of people in the UK have this.. coldsores etc... Comdoms do not stop the risk you are right.. But if she is going to go through with this then so be it...

Adam Webb, MK, UK

Doug,
What a load of rubbish you talk, did you get into med. school via special circumstances or some other charity programme? While herpes can be caught with a condom, that is because it has a different mode of transmission. HIv is only transmitted via bodily fluids, and requires that the person who is yet to become infected has open blood vessels, and a high level of immune cells in the vicinity. HIV is, despite the havoc it can reak once someone is infected, and extremely weak virus, and the chances of catching it during unprotected vaginal heterosexual sex are very small and almost non-existant for a man. If condoms are used properly then it is virtually impossible to cathc. That is why unwanted pregnancies are on the rise, but HIV transmission via sex in heterosexuals (outside of Africa or those who caught it in Africa and immigrated to Europe) is in actual fact decreasing

Dr Andersen, UK,

Good for you (the writer)! It's great to see you konw what will create happiness and calm in your life and pursue it. Contrats!

yoyo, washington, DC

Easy there people...gee you all sound so negative. I think it's great this woman is having such a wonderful time. Sex is the best thing to keep a single mother balanced. Who cares if she pays for it...we all pay in one form or another. I say - YOU GO GRL - stay happy and be good to your children.

Shelley, Santa Ana , USA/CA

She is absolutely right to do this! Do you guys get upset because she's behaving the way men have behaved since the beginning of times, namely to buy sex if she likes to??

XX, Switzerland

G. Orre, Brugg, Switzerland

Women do not ned this to have sex. Maybe men do, but definitely women don't, unless you are either a complete dumb rock or the ugliest feet-smelling woman in world.
Anyway, I am here and ready, honey

latinlover, Marbella, Spain

Goodness me .......This article has made a lot of people angry. Whether it is true or not is irrelevant to the more interesting point that so many people are so hung up on sex in the 21st century...........If you dont have the urge dont do it...What seems obvious is that our experiences of life via the limited filter of our nerve ends and emotions differ enormously from one person to another and it is useless to explain.... why......one person requires elicit sex when another is repulsed by it.....Do what you like but try to be less judgemental......If you dont understand another person's passion then you are missing what they have.

Julian Blackwell, winchester, hants

Not sure why everyone is so hung up about this. While there is no black and white about this, it is a transaction as old as humankind. People should learn more about economics and criticise less. A service is offered and a price is agreed between the buyer and the seller. That is the end of it.

The buyer obviously has a need to be fulfilled and no one knows better than her how much that need is worth to her (psychologically, emotionally and monetary). The seller is offering a service for which he has a price (Risk of disease, emotional damage, vilification, etc). They have reached a price for which both are happy so who are we to criticise it?

Again, I stress that there is no black and white. Get off your moral high horse and understand not everyone is as fortunate as you.

Craig K, London,

The whole affair sounds totally disgusting. If this type of arrangement suits both parties, then the reading public has no say whatsoever. I don't see what's the point of exposing such disgusting details of smb's private life. What the public's supposed to say? This woman sounds utterly pathitic & sick. Obviously, "you pays your money & you makes your choice" as Huxley nicely put it. Everyone's so scared of potential risks of "things going wrong" that they're ready to resort to whatever sick practices there are around.

Pam, St.Petersburg,

So its all a bit of clean fun right! Well, what are the chances that Justin has HIV or another STI then? a 2004 survey of uk male prostitutes concluded that approximately 10% were hiv positive! He is daily having sex with some of the most at risk women/men, many of whom will also have slept with many other at risk men.

Many of these diseases go unoticed for years and could seriously harm her. He wouldn't exactly tell her were he positive for anything or even neccessarily know. HIV in its earliest stages cannot be acurately tested for but is very easily comunicated. No contraception is 100% effective and should he have HIV her chances of contracting it are considerable. Having studied medicine i can tell you that many sexually transmitted diseases aren't stopped by condoms effectively, including the incurable herpes virus. Statistically she is alarmingly likely to contract HIV from him in the long run should he have it, even with condom. she should really get tested for STIs.

Doug, London, UK

What a waste of money! No man is worth that much even if he were Casanova, Darcy and the Archangel Gabriel combined. Girl, buy yourself a good vibrator, keep a second pack of rechargeable dry cells on charge, use a bit of imagination and Bob's your uncle. Or if you want intimacy with your sex then become a lesbian - much more fun than bonking a bloke I can assure you.

Celestine, Trinity Beach, Queensland

I hope Justin increases his fee to keep up with inflation.

xango, Miami, USA

Well , as the conclusion to this sleazy little piece shows, the REAL pleasure for this vain silly deluded woman lies in a pretentious bit of play-acting - "Clever me! I've got a secret! Oooh, you'd NEVER guess what it is, as I look so smart! But really I'm quite foxy!"
Some years ago Mathew Parris publicly played the same trick with a rather similar piece of journalism about his haunting a homosexual pub in Clapham. It's on the web, somewhere ... The chance of being exposed (oh, dear, sorry,) thrilled him, as did the contemplation of how amazed his constituents would be at seeing him with all these rough boys, and how amazed all the rough stuff would be if they could see him taking tea on the terrace with the Tory blue-rinse brigade.
There's an air of self-conscious pride in all these "confessions" (read "exhibitions") which is really pathetic ...
.

I.M Faintly-Bored, London,

Ah, the self-image of the ideal modern women; be in control, never show weakness or better still never believe yourself to have any weaknesses, insecurity is the enemy, be assured and confident, act as if you have complete unbreakable understanding of all around you and who you are, never doubt or question youself - eloquent justification for your actions is much more important.....

David, Beijing, China

Hey, welcome to the 21st century!
Its a level playing field now for both men and women....

Alexander, Port Moresby, Papua New Guinea

As has been noted here already, if it makes you happy, so be it.

But I can't help wondering why the stimulation of one's genitals is such a priority in *any* person's life that they'd need to go to all this trouble?

Please yourself (pun intended).

Jason
Australia

Jason Paris, Newcastle, Australia

So we in this country have woken up to the fact that a lot more women PAY for sex and/or are willing TO pay for sex than we first thought.

So she earns a lot of money and doesn't want a committed relationship and he is willing to accept the money and have sex? So what!

Welcome to the 21st century, men. Its about time you realised that women have as MUCH right to do this as you have been doing for the last several hundred years.

Mich, South Wales,

Pick me, Pick me.....

Scott Sattler, New York, NY, USA

I congratulate you for the courage most people do not have - to do what you like to do. And most importantly - without putting anyone in jeopardy. Neither your kids, nor someone elso who may not understand what it means to have and to take care of lots of kids, and would not understand his low priority position in your life.

There are many differnet parts types of relationships required by humans to feel satisfied . If you were not lucky to find ´a bundle´ that will last till the end of your life, then you have to assemble it out of many people.

When you do not have really the time, for one reason or another, to give to a love partner minimum necessary attention as part of a basic respect, then it is best to turn to professionals and not hurt innocent people.

Peter Walker, Vienna,

There seem to be a large number of supportive comments for this woman.

If it were a man paying for sex, would there be as many ? I think not.......and wonder why not...

Nick, France,

My what a myriad of comments I just have to add mine. You go girl, if it works, go with the flow. Been there done that!
:-)

evie, Charlotte, USA

So she's a divorcee with 4 children and coincidentally so is he!

How handy, how convenient, how easy is it for someone to get lulled in by thinking "oh, it's alright, he's just like me, so it can't be wrong"

Would she be as comfortable with the relationship if he admitted to be being a full time escort with no family?

Not that I have any problems with the correspondant paying for sex but I do wish she'd open her eyes and realise that she is still paying for sex with a whore, no matter what the circumstances are.

Just don't try and dress it up please.

Mick, Colchester, Essex

I say go for it if it makes you happy. I suspect that you enjoy the seperation of different lives due to the fact that you may at times get bored with family and home life. Adding this part to your life lets you be someone different and allows you to take on another role. New roles, especially in different envirnoments are always stimulating, plus adding I am sure an attractive fellow does help. Good for you!

Art, Grand Rapids, MI

Gee honey, if a man had written that article I am sure we could just hear the women hissing like bacon sizzling in a pan! You are obviously feeling guilty or you'd go out dressed to the nines wearing red shoes. You appear to have have a serious amount of disposable income and if you were half good looking I expect many men would stable you for free.

P W Watson, Shaftesbury, Dorset

mmmmmmmm.......matron!

Marello, Coventry,

With all this hypothetical talk of female empowerment, I just wonder the following:

We only have the word of the author that "Justin" is a divorcee who just happens to to be a paid recipient of sex. Afterall, she admits to knowing nothing about him. What if he was a married man who has managed to develop a situation where he receives rather than pays for sexual favours.

This would certainly shatter her utopic picture.

Would any wife he may have, accept their's is a relationship based on non-emotive means.

What is more; he may be the husband of one of the commenters of this article, whose job enables him to be 'out of town' once or twice a month.

Richard, Swindon, UK

Yes, great idea - fun and frolics and no commitment.

Go for it.

Anne, glasgow,

What a bunch of paranoid judgemental individuals we all are.

Drew, London,

I don't think anyone has mentioned the man's family- how does he explain his absences and his extra cash- what does he do with it? It is not just these two people who are involved- it's the other wife too.

And if SHE doesn't think there is anything wrong with all of this- why the secrecy? Just tell your friends and neighbours that you have "a man in town" and be done with it.

GK, Herts,

Sex is just two people touching each other.

So get real one and all. Good luck to her and especially him. He's running a business lets not forget.

I have better ways of spending the money myself and am not emotionally challenged, but I do agree with David London in that men are charged indirectly, rather like a direct debit that is irritating, when it appears for some meaningless product of unjustifiable cost. Thats not just financially but the old emotional ploys (yawn).

With todays interest rate stories, lets hope her interest in him continues, or his business may have to contract, at least for her evening.

Robin, Crawley, UK

Bless you Mary, sounds to me like you should seek out Justin.

AP Leicester

AP, Leicestershire,

mia, aren't you contradicting yourself when you say men would queue up for free sex anytime/anywhere, but it's not just a physical act? for some people, it is all part of an emotional relationship, but that is not necessarily the case. there is nothing wrong with sex for its own sake. nothing. what will screw you up emotionally won't even register for someone else.

hot on the heels of several articles on men being surplus to requirements, it's good to see we are at least good for something.

even if all the articles have been absolute tosh.

and I wouldn't disagree with those who question the veracity of the author. the woman in that picture at the top does seem to have awfully big feet.

jem, london, uk

wake up and smell the coffee! £600 is for the gigolo, plus the meal, plus th hotel bill.

The point was well made earlier about the budget of a part-time working mum with 4 children. if this is to be believed, the total bill will be north of 800 which is £10,000 EXTRA that the divorce settlement is paying for. No way, jose.

Frank Keegan, Alderley Edge,

I think the issue is not so much that she's paying for sex, but that the guy is getting 600 pounds a roll - bastard...must have a great body!

Craig, Sydney, Australia

The author seems intelligent and happy with her choice, and is doing no harm as far as I can see. Who are we to judge? It's not as if she's picking up some underage rent boy/ junkie who's forced to sleep with strangers to survive/ maintain a habit. Personally, I think being paid or paying for sex is a valid choice, provided it delivers an appropriate return for investment. It's no different to marrying for money (and Lord knows, there are plenty who do that) and a damn sight more honest. Good luck to the author and Justin (and there's definitely a joke in there, somewhere!).

Caroline d'Argent, Expat, Middle East

Four children, works only part time, but has 600 quid a month to spend on "Justin" plus, say, another 200 quid for the hotel room, dinner for two etc? I'm sorry, I don't believe it.

Oonagh , Hong Kong,

Learning the art and craft of prayer and meditation is free and will induce a real increase in love, joy and interior peace.

Father Bryan Storey, Tintagel, UK

I commend you, Lady, for what you are doing. Brava! Please take no notice of your critics! I also agree that it is wise for you to pay Justin (and not vice versa) because paying him enables you to call the shots – and so keep the relationship under YOUR control. Since you are the buyer of Justin’s services, you will be able to “fire” him if ever he becomes unsatisfactory. You are obviously a sensitive, conscientious and loving mother/daughter/sister and ex-wife, and you have thought this all out very carefully. I agree that Justin is worth every penny that you pay him. I wish more women would do it your way. You are empowering yourself by taking your OWN sexual and emotional needs seriously. How many women can do that? Well done! Congratulations! Please ignore criticism – especially biased religious or “moral” criticism. To be a sex worker (whether male or female) is a noble, necessary and ancient calling, and a progressive state would hasten to legalize such arrangements.

John, Cape Town, South Africa

Who pays for dinner and hotel room? him?

Tua Kee, Singapore, Singapore

AN UNHEALTHY SITUATION

Sorry to spoil this idyllic picture....however this dear lady may be well advised to face the fact that Justin
is a high priced...PROSTITUTE!

She should understand that, unless she is very careful, she is at risk for contracting some very nasty
diseases.

What would one say about a MAN who pays six hundred Pounds a month for sex with a prostitute?

The poor woman should be saving that six hundred pounds per month for her old age and/or for her kids education and future.....no matter how wealthy she may feel at present.

"...I’ve got a secret side – one that would shock everyone." Her "secret side" should shock ...HER!
She needs a return to reality. I wonder why she got divorced?!?!...!!!

This is a very unhealthy, expensive, risky and abnormal situation.

Garth Strong, San Diego, USA

I would willingly fulfil your requirements without monetary recompense.

Jules, London,

She thinks that, by paying him,she can cancel the arrangement at any time (at a month notice maybe) and it justifies or helps her not to get emotionally involved. Trouble is, she already IS emotionally involved, and he knows it. He will find out where she lives, that is very easy. He could begin to stalk her (maybe already does) and end up blackmailing her.

Marie, The Hague, Holland

And where do your children think you have gone?

Tony G, Newark,

Would the £600 a month not be better and more rewardingly spent on your children than a toy boy?

Mary, London,

Who are you kidding? lt is complicated just in a different way and the fact that it is a secret means that you feel guilty. Sex is not like eating or drinking although many people have that view esp. men so for a woman, it is not normal. Do you know if this man is bi-sexual or is promiscious? lf he is then you risk contracting HIV/STD. Condoms are not 100% and what about pregnancy? You didn't say how old you are so l'm assuming that you are still able to conceive. Obviously you have not thought about all these problems, you are just in denial about getting old and unattractive that is why you have to pay for sex. l would think that men would queue up for free sex anytime anywhere. Sex is meant for bonding 2 people body, soul and mind not just a physical act. You obviously have been deprived all your life and you convince yourself that you are on a good deal. For the man yes, but no doubt you are the loser in this case.

Mia, Brisbane, Australia

"He makes me feel that I’m the centre of attention, he’s very protective and caring, we have a laugh and a chat and the sex gets better and better. He always makes it special with candles and things. How many men would still be doing that after three years in an ordinary relationship? "

Well, you have just discovered the flaw of your own article - The fact he is "protective and caring", is only because he has to do it for once/twice a month, and he gets paid for it - How you can compare that for a "ordinary" full-time and non-paid relationship is beyond all realms of logic.

And BTW, Men have been paying for sex all the time - Its called having a high maintenance girlfriend or wife.

David, London, UK

I'm sorry, this may come across as 'double standard' to men, but think about all the double standards that women have to put up with from men!! They get paid more for doing the same jobs as us, the word 'bachelor' has far less negative connotations than the words 'spinster' or 'old maid' and what about all the years of sexism that we women have had to put up with?!!

Amy, Ausgburg,, Germany

Goodness gracious me!! You have lowered the bar so much that in years to come, women are expected to degrade themselves and pay for sex instead of the other way round. What is the matter with you? Do you have such a low self esteem and self respect? Think about what you are doing, bringing down the feminine gender to such a low point, l am ashamed to be a woman!!!

Virginia, Brisbane, Australia

I'm available!

Paul Davis, York, uk

'Fraility, thy name is woman'. Shakespeare is quiet right.
'Give me a moment to love you, but a decade to know you',
John Milton's open admission to his fiancee gets aptly remembered here. The writer must surely have been continuing this secret relationship even during her marital life, which might have accelerated the pace of their ensuing divorce. Remember, success in marriage is not in having the perfect partner, but in being perfect. When the day follows the night and Justin too, walks away, leaving her in the company of her own shadow, she will realise this eternal truth.

mathew , muscat, oman

I don't in all honesty believe this story, it's been written by a journo to encourage confessions, most of which will be made up anyway. What a lot of voyeuristic twaddle we are in for.

John Walter, Bonn , Germany

I am staggered. This woman can't get a man to have sex with her on a regular basis for free??!!!!! (I think this is one of those made up articles just to provoke controversy). Perhaps she gets off on the power of paying for this exploited man. And before you all start saying "paying for sex is not exploitative" oh yes it is; whatever way you look at it, paying someone for sex is exploiting someone in a less powerful position than yourself. why else would they be selling themselves?

dandiedandie, London, UK,

The consumer society seems to be ingrained in almost everyone- if you want it, you can buy it. How little we value people today. Buying sex is pathetic from a female or a male, your saying they’re not worth your time, your saying a lot about yourself.

Alan , Newmarket, Suffolk

both of them are breaking the law, they should both be in jail!

s, leicester, uk

Akinyemi, Miami, Florida syays
"Hey, if this works for her then more power to her. As long as she is happy, then who are we to judge her choices?"

But if a man pays for sex he is a sick pervert. Feminism is taking the attitude of fundamental religion. Do what I say not what I do, otherwise there will be trouble. I'm ashamed to be a man knowing that the people in power are throwing away the white man's rights.

david, madrid,

The "it's ok as long as it's doing no harm" attitude will reach its fullstop one day. Will society accept people having sex with dogs as long as it's doing "no harm" (presumably to the human and the dog). The culture of "do it if it feels good" is one that is laced with many dangers for the future of humanity. Life is about responsibility. How many other people might Justin be sleeping with, thereby expsing this lady to all sorts of nonsense. I don't get it. She even deludes herself as to why she's living this way: she doesn't want a man walking out "upsetting the children..." What a load of tosh!

Gbenga Williams, London, UK

When (unhappily) married to a man who didn't like sex (believe it or not, they exist!), I set up an arrangement with another equally frustrated soul, a married man with a cold fish wife. I met him through work, found him attractive and really decent, and suggested a complication-free stress release arrangement. We met up regularly, about once a month, for some very satisfying nookie. It was hugely cathartic for both of us. No money was exchanged, although we went out for meals quite often and usually he paid. We never fell in love with one another and both of us are now divorced. We have kept up friendly contact, but the need for escapist nookie is no more. It really worked for the time it did. About a year.
Get out there and make it happen, girls!

Elouise , Cape Town ,

The way this lady is talking, she does seem to be confusing a simple business transaction with a "meaningful relationship". Sex with prostitues is not "meaningful" in sense of reciprocal feelings, and should not be confused with such. I think it was Jack Nicholson who accurately summed up "commercial sex - "I don't pay women to have sex with me. I pay them to go away afterwards". If this is what the lady really wants and she is not decieving anyone else to get it, then the very best of luck to her, but it would be good for her to accept it for what it really is.

Bob Finbow, Haverhill, England

From an economic point of view, this probably represents sensible expenditure. £10,000 to maintain a sexual relationship without all the baggage is cheap compared to the cost of marriage / divorce these days. After all, that's what marriage was in the West and is still considered in various parts of the world - the exchange of (usually) a woman for money in return for 'sex'. Sadly the busy body government wants to interfere in consensual acts between adults for cash. Trafficing? already illegal under any number of kidnap/slavery/forced labour laws.

Peter Bench, London,

Men have been doing this for years. If this is what suits her, so what, it's her money, it's much better than going out to a bar and picking up a different man each week.

Thalassa, quimper, france

why not ? the woman is open-minded to talk so over her secret...bravo,i wish i was the lucky guy.
i would treat her like a LADY too,but maybe different.
Sure thing is,all these moments must be full of surprises,so both parties could enjoy and remember them in their heart.
Long live love....secret or not...

Manu, Knokke, Belgium

Good luck to her, she is doing no harm

norman cater, marmaris, turkey

loads of different type people in the world these days.....

andy, kowloon, Hong Kong

Great it's about time.
Finally acknowledgement that there is a difference between sex and emotional attachment. After all this women's-lib we will see that women's behaviour is not too different from men's.

fuguez, london,

'... and I do like the secrecy element of this arrangement. I keep both lives totally separate and Justin doesn’t know where I live, what I do or even my real surname...'

By the same token she presumably doen't know who he is and where he lives. What if he gets greedy and follows her home one night, safe in the knowledge that neither her family nor her friends know where she's been or who she's been with? Never mind the money, it's a dangerous game she's playing.

SuzyD, Paris,

I'm a guy and have paid for sex but then I realise it's a temporary and very non-ideal way of living. I am not as proud about it as you are and wonder if you are trying to convince yourself that it's really ok? Are you really happy? Why not think about some therapy to deal with the issues which are at the root of this. I know that I need therapy and the sex just seeks to distance us further from facing our issues. Best wishes and I don't mean to judge : )

Nick, London,

I went out for dinner with some female friends last week and this very topic came up. After some discussion we pretty much agreed that if we found ourselves in EXACTLY the situation that the author describes (kids, divorced, the love of her live gone), then using the services of a male prostitute would be very much an option. Yes, sex with a prostitute certainly carries its stigmas, however I think much can be said for getting it exactly the way you want it, when you want it from an attractive man with a hard body.

Nevertheless women do tend to become emotionally attached, and after three years of seeing the same man, I would hazard a guess that this is the case here.

Re. the money – some people are just very wealthy and 600 quid is a drop in the ocean, whether there are four kids or not.

A very interesting article.

I think the problems come when there is some type of emotional attachmnet - and just because

Anon, n/a, n/a

Perhaps this story is more about control than sex. The comment about a guy walking out reveals some issues of self worth and long term security being addressed through financial means. I am sure both participants are enjoying the arrangement for different reasons but there are a long term emotional issues here that defies the financial ones.

Affairs and indiscreet liasions do have a thrill factor but it can wear off. Ensuring the novelty remains by paying for the service is a sad reflection of both parties inability to form adult emotional relationships. The £600 would be better spent on counselling to confront the apparent emoitional issues obviously present..

keith nichol, Bournemouth, England

Doug Bates who wrote an attempt at 'sarcasm': What you wrote it sad and illustrates how naive you are. Just because a man is working as a prostitute, there is no reason whatsoever to bring up human trafficking. Your mind set is a dangerous one. You may think it's cute but what if you worked for immigration or the police force and couldn't take a very real problem of organised crime seriously?


The other thing is, there is nothing wrong with a SINGLE woman paying for sex. The writer stated very clearly that she didn't have the time for one night stands and all the head aches that go with them. There is also the problem of diseases with one night stands. Paid sex workers - not slaves trafficked and kept against their will - tend to keep tabs on their sexual health and can often provide written proof of their health status.
The problem that so many women have with men paying for sex is not the act but the fact that MARRIED men go to prostitutes. That is obvious.

Kim, London,

I respect everyone´s own decitions in life. I find this option respectable: avoiding all the complications that a normal relationship might imply. But from my personal point of view, this kind of sex relationship is a bit selfish. You get what you want (fun and sex) your own way, because you are paying much for it. This man is obviously an actor (and I don´t blame him). I personally would soon fall in love with such a gorgeous man (I am a gay guy). I would suffer a lot knowing that he´s only with me for money. Depressing. From my point of view, only an egocentric could continue such a relationship. At least you could change partner from time to time. My friend, if you are doing this just to avoid the problems that any relationship might imply, you might soon suffer double when you fall in love with this man(if you are not in love already), and he desapears from your life. (He might as well decide to stay with you forever - though that will cost you maybe 5000 a month - ).

CESAR GRAGERA, Cáceres, Spain

So a woman pays for sex in the way she, and many other mums like her, would prefer: entirely under her control, lacking in passion and all about her. It is surely not common to pay for sex like this, but I bet a lot of mums in their 30's and 40's feel the same way about sex as this woman.

The question is - why does she pay? She does not need to. Payment alters the relationship to one of control. What is it about a normal sexual relationship that is so off-putting to many women?

They want sex, but they want to be in control. Above all they cannot abide feeling pressured about sex. This lady has found an expensive solution. Others simply go without.



A very, very interesting article.

Riccardo, Birmingham,

Well, there's plenty of men who pay women money every month and somebody else has sex with them.

i.e., Norwich,

"..Anyone fancy lending me £600?
Simone, London"

I'll do you a deal. No interest credit.

Joe, Manchester,

I think many of the men posting on here are over-estimating their sexual prowess.
This woman is willing to pay £600 a month for sex with this man, so he must be pretty good, while your average man-in-a-bar who would do it for free isn't.

Anon. , London,

Oh dear, oh dear. This reminds me of the articles in Forum magazine of many years ago, and it is just as unbelievable. A nice little piece to get the masses chatting. Rupert you can do better than this.

SteveW, Sydney, Australia

It is all well and good to pay someone for sex and stand behind it, fantastic good for you. However, don't blame your children for your inability to form or exert the energy for a traditional relationship. She isn't concerned about what impact a man walking out on her would have on her children, she is worried about what kind of impact it would have on her. She is not only paying for sex, she is paying for protection against a possible heartbreak.

Katie, ORange, ca

Lucky her, if it is true. My husband has been impotent 6 years, and refuses to acknowledge it, even though the beta blockers causing it can be counteracted. He is of the mind set that if he is, I am. I tell you, DIYgets rather boring. I'd love to find a 'Justin' for lust, as I still love my miserable git (he's 52). But I can't afford it as I work freelance and he pays the bills. Oh. by the way, he isn't a complete cretin, he's a City solicitor. Stupid, yes.

odette, London, UK

"I Pay a man for regular sex"

What a sad article. The time and money this woman spends on her male prostitute is staggering. Just think what better uses this money could be put to not least her 4 children. She spends £7200 pa on say 24 orgasms. There are old people in my village who have less than that to live on each year. I just feel sick when she says how many men would be lighting candles for her after 3 years. At £65 per hour I think that all men without scruples and decency would give her the attention her purse craves. A photo of her might explain alot though

terence, shrewsbury, uk

I have called it The New Romance of Today's Woman in my latest blog post centered around this and another such popular news story. Here is the link, if you care to read my article and observation:

http://emberglow.wordpress.com/2007/12/05/the-new-romance-for-todays-woman/

As I say, romantic and sexual landscape has changed, in my opinion, solely because of the changed economics. Women were the sellers of sex and romance. Now they're they buyers too. At face value it looks like a very fair trade.

Ember, Christchurch, New Zealand

To write about a person's SEX exploit is the most easy and sure way to get his or her story published and attract a lot of comments( Like a fool I fall for it again ) . Nothing can be more blatantly salacious and brutally frank and erotic than an article entitled" I pay a man for regular sex" (money and REGUALR sex! every one's idea of Heaven on earth). The seductive authoress (or author?) should be congratulated for writing about her sexual encounters (real or imaginary) which instantly appeals to both SEXES. Like it or not nothing sells and thrills like illicit sex. I defy anyone who can come up with a more potent, exciting and TITILATING three lettered word. In fact no other words in the entire English language can AROUSE, fascinate and stimulate people physically and mentally in such a long,deep and far reaching manner. Sex, simply the most powerful, irresistible and primitive driving force in the history of human (and animal) evolution because nothing erupts or explodes like when flesh and desire come together!

Wing, Poole, UK

Surely you're all missing the point? The authoress is eighty years old, blue-rinsed mane of white hair, lipstick smeared teeth, re-reading her Mills and Boon trove and having a wonderful time dreaming what never happened. And the best of luck to her.

M Clement Hall, Guelph, Ontario, Canada

To all the people who have pointed out that this lady could go out and get laid for free-well yes, she could, but you're totally missing the point. I hate to say it but most men have a very overinflated(excuse the pun) idea of their ability to please a discerning woman. Everyone needs some human contact and companionship of a physical kind and she knows this guy is not only a cracker in bed but she enjoys his company-and if he's good enough to charge £200, then I envy her! However, it's totally untrue women can't separate sex and relationships. She's had commitment and it didn't work and I can imagine that the pain of a failed marriage is enough to put anyone off a repeat experience, especially if there are children involved. Surely less traumatic and confusing for them to just avoid it. But why should she have to forgo satisfaction completely? I think she has an eminently sensible arrangement-and with my past experience of men, I may well follow her example.

Cate, London,

JoeT from Virginia said "Wow is she getting ripped off! Buy me a beer or two sweetheart and I'm yours for the night."
If she were to come up to Maryland, Joe, I'd make myself available AND buy the beer!

Peebee, Baltimore, MD

Perhaps we taxpayers are funding most of this. A single mother needs to work only 15 hours per week on the minimum wage ( and it sounds as if this lady gets rather more than that) to end up with £2000per month after tax due to the tax credit system. Many live on the £1400 per month left from this adventure, without any other earnings, so cross the "me first" barrier and there are countless young women who could fund this quite easily. Not quite what Gordon Brown had in mind when pensions were stolen to hand out in tax credits, or was it? Even on this rather seedy level one of the aspects of a proper family is taken care of without any need to provide the attendant family structure for the children. Perhaps there should be an increase in tax credits to ensure no one gets left out.

D.L. Stephens, York, England

This is certainly not fake. It is fantastic that women are at last standing up and taking control of their own lives.

There are many reasons why a lady would choose to date a male escort; the desire to be in complete control; to have all the emotional and physical pleasures that come from a new relationship without the problems that are experienced in a stale relationship; to bring a bit of excitement to a life that may have become mundane; and maybe even just out of curiosity.

Whatever the reason, she should be applauded by not allowing society to restrict her in any way.

Justin Darling, Edinburgh, Scotland

I don't understand all the criticism of this woman. Would you say the same things if the gender of the author was male?

It's her money and her life and I don't think she's doing much different than most people in society, except she's more honest about it.

Is this situation really that different than women who marry for money? Or men that visit prostitutes? Or for that matter men who expect women to put out after paying for dinner?

Money and sex have been linked since money was invented. I say good for her for being brave enough to ignore taboos.

Tubbs, Washington, DC, USA

I really don't thnk it's what Gordon Brown would like single mum's to spend their child tax credit on, but hey, ho, as long as she is happy. The price is a bit steep though - not that i have ever priced up prostitutes, sorry ;escorts'.

Northerner, Bolton,

If - a big if- this is all true, he should do it for nothing. She sounds a very nice lady and he should be happy just to enjoy her company and be happy to be able to give her pleasure. The most he should let her do is pick up the tab for dinner and the hotel - that is, if she earns a lot more than he does. If their income/outgoings are comparable, they should go dutch. But he should NOT accept a fee in addition!

JF, Canterbury, UK

Fake or not, she just gave me a great idea. If I ever divorce my husband, I'll do exactly the same.

Sylvia, Barcelona , spain

A pretty sad state of ....'affairs'...sorry but what is this world coming to ..i mean...what next ..words fail me.......but.........
i'd do it for £99.99........

John Thomas, oxofrd, uk

Absolute balderdash. To think, I could provide all of the aforementioned services for a few cans of budweiser. And I2d throw in Mrs Stan as well. 2 for the price of one!

Stan Bull, Istanbul, Turkey

What a hook! It's all fantasy and yet so many, including me! have posted in about it! On top of that I am sure the writer is a man! I love all the "serious" comments about relationships etc! Too, too PC and pompous for words!! Especially the ones from women -none of them seem to be jokey! Hang on maybe it's Gordon in drag? No! He would be on about tax!

E. Purgold, Cambs, UK

The ultimate selfishness here is being in a "relationship" where you need not have any regard for the other's views or sensitivities, because you are paying them to accept however much or little you happen to feel like giving. What kind of person is going to result from that process?

Scarlett, Surrey,

This story is so obviously fake - it reads like a cheap novel. I'm absolutely amazed that so many gullible people have been taken in and believe every word, and then rush to condemn or sympathise with the writer. It goes to show just how far removed from reality people are these days - guess they must all be TV soap addicts.

Ed, London,

I see no problem with this at all. People in England are so hung up on keeping up false apperances and haveing to lie to their partners, all because of sex. We should, in the 21st century, be able to seperate sex from marraige and lokng term relationships. How many otherwise successful relationships have failed just because of sex. I feel both male and female, gay and straight prostitutes (I hate that word) should be more readly accepted into mordern society, it is the most ancient of all professions and should be part of the main stream. You can now buy almost anything online, why should escorting be any different.

Richard, Salisbury

Richard Wylder, Salisbury, Wiltshire

..Anyone fancy lending me £600?

Simone, London,

Jack, London: "Men have been doing this for years: we pay for meals, drinks, vacations, all with the aim of getting down to some serious exchange of body fluids. Women EXPECT men to pay first."

Oh dear. I met someone like you last year. It was the most unfulfilling, emotionally distant, quite unpleasant relationship I have ever ventured into. There was me thinking the offering to pay for items (not everything I hasten to add, it was nearly 50-50) was out of some romantic chivalry, kindness and generosity (he was very wealthy, I am not). But after the holiday, the one expensive meal on the first date, he began to call in the favours so to speak. Demand them even. And aligned them directly with what he had spent. Yuk yuk yuk. We don't EXPECT men to pay first and assume sex is the payment in response. As for the article - think what good she could do with £600 a month with her kids. Is this included in her husband's maintenance?

Laura Roberts, London, UK

Wow is she getting ripped off! Buy me a beer or two sweetheart and I'm yours for the night.

JoeT, Warrenton VA, USA

Her motive for not getting married to another person is so that the kids wont get hurt if he bails out. That is so touching. Not!
I wonder what they'd say when they realise she's been sneaking out and getting her fixes.Sweetie..you're bringing up 4 hypocritical and relationally challenged adults. Good job!

jomster, al ain, uae

Kay - what you said may be correct in the sense in which *some* people would get morally indigant about this.

There is however, a difference of perception around this and the quotation I provided explained this:

"I get a real buzz out of my elegant, controlled image and the fact that no one knows I’ve got a secret side – one that would shock everyone."

You would not get a man saying that, and few if any would be sympathetic, though I suspect that is not true of this remark from a woman. She adds it to her autobiography with pride and enjoyment. There is a big difference.

Joe, Manchester,

What a lot of hypocrisy in these comments. How many women regularly go to bed with a man without feeling overly enthusiastic just because he's paid for a delicious dinner and other treats.... Increasingly professional women don't need the neediness and dependency many men bring to relationships, but still want to have a fulfilling, if only occasional, sexual existence. I am the much higher earner in an intermittent relationship with a rather younger man, and though the transaction isn't quite so clinical and precise, I foot most of the bills and am very well taken care of as a result.

Suzie, London,

What a sad, sad woman. Do your self a favor, 'snap back to reality' before your kids find out there mam's been spending all the money on protitutes and mess's up there heads for life.

Funny how she doesn't call him a prostitue, trying to make her self feel better, dismissing the fact she is paying a rentboy £600 a night to have some unconnected, cold sex with him. Why not buy a sex toy and spend the other £550 a month on your kids.

Nothing is real, your living a complete lie, the the full setup, from start to finish is FAKE, FAKE, FAKE!! He's like a glorified actor being paid, very, very well to do something 85% of men could do for her. How can you not feel repulsive when every single thing you's say to each other is 100% fake, why even go out for the meal and not stright to the hotel?

Try a happy, healthy relationship. You get that pleasure every night, if you got paid for that pleasure, you'd be earning yourself £219,000 a year.

Andy (22), England,

Apart from the obvious risk of disease, I wonder if she has thought about the possible risk of blackmail?

This character is on a 'nice little earner', if she finally decides to call it a day, will he graciously walk away? He might well be aware of her current convoluted efforts to avoid scandal, so he can work out how much his silence is worth.

Dangerous Liasons........

Carole, Suffolk, UK

Be quiet, Dirk. She's a big girl, capable of knowing when she is "hurt" or not, if she is happy or not, what love is and if she wants it or not and with whom. Your rant is clearly your ideas on this matter, it is not relevant to her, and you thus might reconsider it..

Joe, Manchester,

The only puzzling aspect of this story is the economics of the relationship. I would have been more convinced by this narrative had this been clarified. How indeed can she afford it?

Dectora, London, U K

maybe this is from her collections of creative writing pieces??

Adam, Birmingham,

Get payed for having sex with a 36 year old "wat a nice age" woman. I think that only hapen on the movies. Lucky man.

Portugês, Lisboa, Portugal

I appreciate you gentleman feel enraged. However, I think it is difficult for you to fully empathise with her situation and I wouldn't expect you to. My mother was/is a professional single mother with 4 children and If I thought that at the weekends she was having a little time out for herself, I would be the last to judge what she chooses to do.

She has devoted every hour of every day to us, overtly or inadvertently. There is nothing selfish about this lady. So what if she wishes to keep it secret, do you guys really think society is ready to accept the way she has chosen as a free being to live?

Joe - It's not just men who face condemnation in a similar situation..hence she has had to keep it a secret.
Arnold - Ok, so most could find better things to do with £600, who's judging what you do with yours.
Dirk - I don't remember anywhere in the article mentioning that she's buying love, do you? IF she wanted a conventional relationship, then I'm sure she would be in one.

Kay, London, UK

If I were her, I'd have negotiated a discount by now, something along the lines of 'three for the price of two'.

anne, bournemouth,

It's to be hoped for £600 a night he doesn't live up to his name- Just in.
It's 2 people happy, harming no-one so good on you.

Give me a call if you want to save some money!!

Alan, Staffs,

A double life with a "satisfying" secret. Something hidden, exciting, out of the rules. As longs as it works it's ok: no committments no regrets...no full life.

Pinuccia, Milan, Italy

What a waste of money! I've never known a women find it hard to get laid for free.

What I want to know is how does a single mum working part time afford £600+ a month on a prostitute? I am hoping the answer is she had a huge pay out from her ex-husband or that she comes from a wealthy family and is not using tax payers money to fund her seedy sex life!

Secondly I think she must have some deep seeded emotional issues to prefer a lonsgtanding arrangement with a rent boy than a proper relationship...

Fiona, birmingham,

Pull the other one. This story is entirely unbelievable, unless the "writer" really is this stupid. She should be spending her husband's/children's money on better things, or give it to charity. What a selfish money-waster!

Felicity, Oxford, UK

"I get a real buzz out of my elegant, controlled image and the fact that no one knows I’ve got a secret side – one that would shock everyone."

Why can we understand this - I'm sure most people do - but not the reverse? Imagine if a man had that. It wouldn't just be "shock", it would be condemnation, accusation, demonisation etc.

Joe, Manchester,

Sorry - I just wouldn't be the same person if I paid for sex, and at £600 for the night I would feel even worse. More money than sense.

Arnold Ward, Weybridge, Surrey, UK

No one is hurt? Really? A big lie always hurts and you - lady - you are living in a big lie. It is not you (!) who is at the centre of attention of someone who loves you: it's simply your money!! Wake up you are living a life in selfbetray. Don't you see? Nothing can beat a real love in life. And money can't buy me love! Remember? You are living an old Victorian arrangement - no one can be happy with. You feel guilty that is why you hide your "secret"! What do you teach your children? Living in lies makes one happy? That is what you really do? Poor kids of yours. This is like living in hell. I feel sorry for you

Dirk R Bode, Hamburg, Germany,

why would anyone criticise her? and if she thinks it's good value for money, why pay less?

of course, there are double standards and hypocrisy. but it's not her that needs to change.

it's just a shame the wife won't allow me a career change.

jem, london, uk

I did this while in Uni - I was paid to take transfer students visiting from the US out in London, show them the sites and night-clubs. They always paid for me and left me a little bonus if I slept with them at the end of the night.

I found it thrilling and great fun - bit of a student fantasy to have your night paid for you and get some action!

JR Duvall, London,

600 quid for the night????

I can only assume the lady in question has more chins than a Chinese phonebook.

Jon, Expat, Non UK

I agree with a previous poster. You're being had love. There are plenty of guys out there that would jump at the chance of a no strings sex a couple of times a month for free.

Also, who on earth can afford £600 a month (or twice a month) when they have 4 children and work part time!!! You must have a very generous ex-husband and a VERY well paid job.

Sally, Newcastle upon Tyne, England

This is no ones business except the two people involved.

Denise Ball, Oldbury, England

Where's all the whining about exploiting the other person? Is it because the person paying is a woman, and we are all supposed to believe that men are responsible for their actions but women not so? [per recent legal guidance on alcohol and consent to sex]

Nick, Rotherham, UK

Men have been doing this for years: we pay for meals, drinks, vacations, all with the aim of getting down to some serious exchange of body fluids, or sex as it is called. Women EXPECT men to pay first, is is the sweetener. So what's the difference if a woman does it?

Jack, London, UK

£600 for overnight? My wife is getting a bargain !!!!

pete, hull,

You work part time, and you can afford £600 a month (plus the expenses of the evening out, etc)?

That's at least £7200 a year just on Justin.

What kind of part time work pays that sort of money, and have they got any jobs going?

RN, Haywards Heath,

Good for you Girl. It works; no-one gets hurt and no-one is likely to get hurt. Enjoy it for as long as you want it this way. I'd be cautious if your husband is paying you maintenance though. If he finds out about the £600 per month you may well find yourself in a bit of bother.

bobby tran, enfield,

Well prostitution is known as the world's oldest profession. So a modern working woman paying for sex is no different to men who pay for it.

It is an interesting contractual arrangement as they both effectively role play the "relationship".

Male friends have assured me (NO I havent paid for sex ... yet) that the prostitutes they meet are often very sensitive and aware of what men want. They also talk about sometimes not even having sex but just chatting with someone who plays an important role for them.

I think the most interesting thing is that the acting disguises the true life of especially the prostitute. I have done street-work and the sad lives of the young men and women sex workers on the street are truely awful to witness. I know the article is of a more an up-market escort service but I still can't help but think that the service provideer would prefer to do something else if they could earn similar money in other ways.

dean, Sydney, Australia

How much? She could have had me for a mars bar and two balloons and I never have a headache, honest.

Cromwell, Leeds, England

Something puzzles me. £600 each month? I'm a professional with a PhD, in my 50-ties, on £36K a year with two dependent students. £600 is my monthly household budget, after the mortgage, the bills and the petrol have been paid and there is very little left. This lady works part-time, has 4 children to cater for and still has £600 to spare? What job does she have? Or does she have a generous divorce settlement so that's it's her ex who's footing the bill? If so, what a way to get your own back on him.

The word "selfish" doesn't figure in this report, but I think it should.

BZW. "Justin" should be careful. His £600 douceur is taxable income.

Don Basilio, Cambridge, UK

Hey there ladies, you can sign me up too. I'm quite short, but pleasant company and a complete giver, in more ways than one.

You can have me for free on the first night.

Jeff, Manchester,

How delusional is she? wouldn't it be better to find a nice companion, a friend who would also provide sex? and ,,,honey for that price I would expect more than candles.

You might try to glamorise it or justify it but you are just paying for sex. Sad indeed.

Alessandra, Seville, Spain

Sounds good.

john , Birkenhead, UK

Well, good for her you know. I am not at all a feminist, but to be honest, I have never considered men who pay for sex sleazy-so I can say that I don't see anything sleazy in this-unless they specially go for underage girls, then surely that's a kind of perversion? But if a man is paying that much for a very elegant, high class escort, then I do not see anything sleazy about that. As for Doug in St. Albans, no I don't think that this lady should be ashamed of herself. Though yes, I do wonder whether this is hampering her should "the one" come along and her not seeing it because of this arrangement, but I think it is a rather cushy position for Justin, and £600 for a night? I don't think that he needs to be pumped full of viagra to get it done at all.
But then, just how good is it that makes him worth that much per night? curious curious...

Anon, N/A, N/A

What about poor Justin? He has doubtless been trafficked from Eastern Europe by an exploitative female gang, is made to go to the gym constantly to maintain his physique and force fed Viagra before being pimped out against his will. The author should be ahamed of herself!

Doug Bates, St. Albans,

Sounds great... what's his number?

Only joking, I couldn't afford it.

Pav, London,

Er, do you realise that if HMG succeeds in its plans, as abetted by the (I think) Tory MP who has tabled an amendment to the latest CJIB, to make everyone who PAYS for sexual services a criminal, you might be the first to be sent to the clink?

Avana Beach, London,

I understand that you don't want all the complications of a relationship, but in reality you do have a relationship, just not a traditional one. I believe that this arrangement is hampering you from finding someone who can meet your needs <unpaid>. There are lots of men who would love an arrangement such as the one you just described, and would not expect to benefit monetarily from the arrangement. You should really spend some more time assessing your options-- long run the kind of relationship you are describing will leave you not only alone but hiding a secret that may bite you in the behind.

Faith, Withheld, Withheld

I hope for the protection of her dear family, she is having safe and protected sex.

Mike Slaughter, Altamonte Springs, Florida USA

Justin is not exactly a great name for a Male gigolo and certainly does not sound value for that money!

Rosanna, Vancouver, Canada BC

Unsurprising outcome of the feminist struggle for equality.
Entertaining fad.

A Skeptical Empiricist, London, England

now how bout ..getting paid for sex ..ever think of that?why waste money, when there are loads of me who would pay to have sex with you

rob, az, us

Oh, brother. Women love to vilify men that pay for sex. But when they do it, it is considered a "lifestyle choice". The sexism in this world is rampant, along with the double-standards and hypocrisy. Men that pay for sex are considered sick, perverted puppies. Now isn't this endorsement special?

SGA, Brandon, FL

£200 for one hour?! You must be crazy. I know guys that will do the same, probably even better, for less. Wake up lady, you are been had in more ways then you think.

Fabio C, London, UK

how come when its woman paying for a man ..it doesnt sound as sleazy.

rob, az, us

Hey, if this works for her then more power to her. As long as she is happy, then who are we to judge her choices?

Akinyemi, Miami, Florida