STYLE PIONEER

Hair has started growing in and around my ears. Should I get them waxed or buy a small comb?

TK, Dublin

It would be much more original to buy a comb and, rather than using wax to remove the hairs, use it instead to create more adventurous styles around your ears. (Top tip: you don’t need to buy wax, as you can recycle your own.)

OFFENSIVE SHIRTS

I organise my husband’s shirts according to the colours of the rainbow (with white at one end and black at the other). I am never sure where to put the browns. Can you help me?

AC, by e-mail

They should be placed in the bin, unless you are tragically short of dusters.

BY The BOOK

After a four-year red-hot relationship with a popular psychotherapist (he has written more than 100 self-help books), he left me with an ice-cold text message, saying he didn’t want to stay in contact. I don’t want to appear a pathetic woman, but I don’t want to be over it. What can I do?

RT, by e-mail

How fascinating. You need to tell me his name — not because it will be of the slightest help, but simply because I am dying to know. I suspect the answer to your turmoil lies in his work: for instance, if he has written anything called Treat ’Em Mean, Keep ’Em Keen, then you are probably best off walking away because he is what psychotherapists call an “idiot”. If he has written anything called How to Deal with the Big Issues in Your Life, then, again, you are probably best off walking away, because he’s pathetic. However, in the end, I suspect it will all come down to exactly what you mean by “red hot”. There are some physical experiences that are just too good to miss and for which one will put up with almost anything.

RIGHT BUT REPULSIVE

I just had to write to congratulate you on highlighting the solecism “between my wife and I” in a letter from DJ, Hove (Style, June 21). This is similar to remarks I have to suffer from my sisters-in-law, eg, “John bought a drink for Margaret and I”. Although it makes me angry when I hear these words, I am loathe to point out the error so as not to cause offence. Have you any suggestions as to how I can address this issue and yet retain our semblance of friendship?

JM, Belfast

The only way is to point out the mistake. Of course, you will lose friends, but it is a price worth paying (and if you can avoid laughing at them — which I can’t — they may even thank you). I sleep easier at night knowing that I have made a stand against the spreading darkness of ignorance and barbarism. It is also important to stop people pronouncing “dissect” like “bisect”. Oh, and you might like to use a dictionary to look up the difference between loath and loathe.

BIG BUOY

Why, when I capsize in a sailing dinghy, do I always graze my left shin?

PWS, Cossall

Check the splicing on your mainbrace, keep your baggywrinkle well fluffed and cast your futtocks adrift (they’re not necessary on a small boat). You’ll find your shin-grazing misery at an end.

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