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You’re in a bar and someone lights a cigarette
MARK HASTINGS
British Beer and Pub Association
You should do what people have been doing for years in shops, cinemas,
theatres, trains and other places where you can’t smoke: politely ask them
to stop, and maybe point out that it’s now against the law. Many visitors to
this country may not realise that the law has changed. Others may be just
absent-minded. I think most people are extremely amenable to people who very
politely point out that they’re not permitted to do something, and on 99.9
per cent of occasions the person will respond in exactly the way you’d
expect them to: they’ll put out their cigarette. If they refuse, you could
point out to the landlord what was happening and rely on him to take the
appropriate action.
A man lets his dog foul a path in a public park
LESLEY MAIR
City of London Corporation
If you felt comfortable approaching the person, then have a relaxed chat with
them and explain to them the problems of not clearing up after your dog.
Children might step or play in it, and if it gets washed into the water
system it can cause water pollution. It also gives a bad name to other dog
owners.
If you don’t have much joy, most parks have a keeper, or on Hampstead Heath you can go to the Heath Constabulary. If you have real concerns you can take them to a council.
I’m not sure if I’d clean up dog-mess myself. It depends how brave you are.
A fellow train passenger puts his feet on the seat
KEVIN SHANAHAN
Detective chief inspector, British Transport Police
I would say, “Excuse me but would you move your feet?” The person is
committing an offence: the bylaws say people must conduct themselves in a
reasonable manner. They are making the seat dirty, and it’s intimidating to
a certain extent. You may feel that you are likely to be intimidated,
threatened, or even – God forbid – assaulted if you say something. You could
complain to the conductor, but whether they do something about it is
subjective, as they might be intimidated themselves. By all means register
your concerns with staff, but call us only if you feel that the individual
is aggressive and likely to be a threat to you.
You see a parent violently slapping a child
CLAUDE KNIGHTS
Training manager, Kidscape
If someone is out of control, they need help as well. So I would see what I
could do to defuse the situation and protect the child if possible. I would
be positive and ask if I could help – not to come across as a busybody, but
as someone who cares. You should assess the seriousness of the situation. If
they are not calming down, or if you feel threatened, you might involve a
police officer if there is one near by. I always think, “If I don’t take
this further the child is going to remain at risk, but if I’m wrong, I’m
just wrong.” If more bystanders take an interest in abusers, then that might
be enough to persuade them that it doesn’t have to be like this.
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Intervening can be a hazardous undertaking : those behaving badly assume - usually correctly - that no-one will be able to intervene effectively since they are obeying the law by not carrying anything which could be construed as a weapon.
The passage of "concealed carry" laws in the USA has had a wholly beneficial effect on street crime because the bad guys don't know who might be armed. This benign state of affairs is never mentioned over here because it clashes with the prevailing orthodoxy of political and media opinion-formers.
D Lewis, Slough, UK
I don't think I am alone in this one as most of my friends agree to some extent with me on this. If the child is in a public place and behaving unacceptably and the parent is simply administering the sort of slap I used to get when I was younger and said slap is failing to quieten the child I would take the following steps.
1) Ask the parent to remove said source of unlimited noise pollution from earshot.
2) Offer the use of a fresh arm.
Maybe this seems heartless and is easy for me to say as I don't have children but I am just so fed up with having to listen to other peoples badly behaved children in shops on planes, trains, in the street. Some people hate the pollution from smoke, I hate the pollution that is children.
dave, worthing, uk
Hilarious... 'I would only get involved if the child was hit an a really heartless way..' (Hassan, wembley).
Is there any degree of logic in that statement? To take that to its natural conclusion:
To to hit a child in a heartless way is acceptable, as long as its not REALLY heartless or even to hit a child in a heartfelt way, thats fine too. How absurdly ignorant.
God knows, I don't condemn a smack (although is that illegal? i can't remember) but 'hitting' surely is something completely different - heartfelt or heartless!
On a different subject - the city bankers (ahem) all smoke in the nightclubs I've been too, I guess the fine is less than their spend in an evening, so owners are reluctant to stop them.
Victoria, London, UK
âIf I donât take this further the child is going to remain at risk, but if Iâm wrong, Iâm just wrong.â No, if you're wrong the entire family will be in severe trouble anyway. Think twice before you intervene and how you do it. These days it is far easier to cause more harm than help to a family by rash interference.
Chris Waclawik, Arnprior, Canada
Why is ANY of this our problem? This Government has paid good 'wages' to people on benefits to raise kids. When they turn out to be unsuitable parents and produce badly behaved unco-operative adults then it's our problem again? I wouldn't approach anyone at any time because their bad behaviour, no matter how it affects me, is not my responsibility. This Government has created this climate of lawlessness and it's up to them to sort it out. My advice to people would be to look after themselves first because those misbehaving are quite often thugs.
Judy , Liverpool, england
Is slapping children illegal yet or not? I don't think it is. Why not make it illegal, otherwise what is the point of complaining to the police?
Tina, South Wales, UK
Calling the police? for seeing a parent slap a child? Obviously they're aren't busy enough with real criminals say muggers, burglars, car thieves, drug dealers......... do you really think this is on the same level??? Get real.
David Woodhouse, Lowestoft,
Yeah 99% of the time they will put it out?? Your joking? You live in the UK right? Some guy in the local town of Buckingham where I live, Quiet place, had a bottle over his head when he asked some girl to stop smoking.. Do NOT ask people to stop smoking unless you can expect any type of response! Look at the poor guy shot in the face.. Mark Hastings should resign..
Adam Webb, MK, UK
In the case of a smoker in a bar, I'd go straight to the landlord, and if that didn't help, I'd call the police immediately. I've had to put up with that filthy smoke quite long enough thankyou.
And if I saw a parent violently slapping a child, it would be the police I called first, before even saying a word to the parent.
Vincent Murphy, London, UK
i do not believe any parent would respond politely if you told them not to slap their child because at the end of the day, that child is their own, fair enough slapping the child is a little too extreme but i am sure in 99% of cases, the parent is likely to respond to you with a very abusive manner and they'll tell you it is none of your business so i would only get involved if the situation escalated and the child was hit in a really heartless way.
Hassan, wembley, united kingdom
You have only to go through the past pages of this paper to see that innocent people have been stabbed through the heart for less. Being a model citizen, was the thing to do in a bygone era when the carrying of knives or worse guns, was just something that didn't occur.
Personally I would not make myself involved in any of these scenarios. Coward? Yes. But I have a wife and two children at home.
Michael Man, Hull, England
i don't care, nothing to do with me. So why should i care?
Siggy, Oslo, Norway